Backstory: Met this girl that lives about 3 1/2 hours away from me. We have been out together a few times. I drove to her place for the weekend, and she came to mine a couple times. She wants me to go see her in a couple weeks for her birthday and I said sure but I really dont want to. I feel like she thinks we are in a real relationship, but this long distance stuff is not working for me, especially since she is not 'great' in my book. So question is should I go up there, and stop it then? Do I make up some excuse to not go then tell her the long distance thing wont work? I am terrible at "break ups" even though in my mind we arent really together. I hate feeling like I am the asshole in the situation. Suggestions?