The back story is this: About a month and a half ago, my ex and I broke up. We didn't talk for a couple weeks, then started talking a little bit, then started hanging out again. It came out that we both wanted to get back together, but we had issues we needed to deal with first. We needed to learn how to be a little bit more open to each other when something bothered us, we needed to be able know we can go out with each other's friends and have a fun time and not just sit at the house all the time, and we needed to stop the arguing. I also have a major anger issue and took a lot of stuff out on her I shouldn't have. I've since started going to counseling for this issue. So, the talk of us getting back together has come up a lot recently. However, we know we can't just jump into a relationship again because we don't know if all of the issues have started or have passed us by. We agreed the best thing to do is just go back to the way we were before we entered the relationship, the dating stage. However, this is the problem. There's so much feelings there, I don't know how to go back to that stage, though I really want to. I look back and saw just how easy things were, we had a lot of fun together. We went on dates here and there, hung out here and there, it that was it. We went out with our own friends and had fun, whatever. I know it's the best thing to do, but how do I get back there? How do I go back to not having her in my mind at all times of the day and wondering where this is going to go? How do I go back to being extremely happy seeing her maybe twice a week, and not worrying much about her the other days of the week? The bad thing is this too: I'm moving in a little over two months to San Diego, and she's moving down there about 5 months after me. She's not going for me, she's going for school. However, in my mind, I have the thought that if we don't get back together before I leave, I'm going to lose her forever, and I don't want that. I'm almost looking at it as if I have two months to get her back, or everything is done. I dunno. Advice?