Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by Falconer, Mar 23, 2010.
If you found out your SO snooped your stuff, what would your reaction be?
it would be
lmao... i love you falc.
i would ask why she is doing it. if she said just cause i would be ok with it.
if she said bc you did X which made me worry i would explain myself and depending on what i did apologize if needed.
the only way i would get upset is if this is happening A LOT and she is questioning my actions A LOT.
I would probably question his trust in me, and, therefore question our relationship.
I'd be pissed that they felt they couldn't trust me but I'm also an open book with an SO so I don't imagine it would be necessary
As I stated in the other thread...
My only feelings would be to be concerned about why she felt the need to snoop.
1. My feelings would be hurt
2. I would be concerned about the following
a. why does he feel the need to snoop?
b. how will our relationship be affected when he inevitably finds a text from my moms old number that doesn't appear as 'mom' anymore asking if my cat is feeling better after the trip to the vet and wonders WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, WHAT IS IN THE FUCKING BOX?
It makes me laugh thinking of my SO feeling so insecure he snooped on me. I've got nothing to hide, if he snooped and I found out/he told me I'd be like "find something good?"
You don't tell the person you snooped, especially if you don't find anything
Well I just put "in case he told me" because my SO is the kind of guy who can't keep a secret to save his life. If he's guilty about something he lasts about 2 hours before he bursts
What I find interesting is how many people snoop ALL THE TIME, even though every time they snoop they find absolutely nothing incriminating. That's what I find really pathetic about most snoopers.
I don't care, as we share all passwords with each other anyway, and some accounts with companies (ebay) we both use the same username.
Eh, I have nothing to hide.
I would probably plant some fictitious evidence and then catch her in her distrust when she tries to confront me about it.
Random g/f.... I'd be a little offended and probably take that as a sign to end things.
LTR.... I wouldn't mind that much. I've got nothing to hide. I'd sit her down and try to figure out what prompted her to snoop and ask what's the matter.
It also depends on the type of snooping. Going through my email/facebook/phone wouldn't be the end of the world. Going through a personal journal or something of that nature would VERY much bother me.
Only one time did I actually get pissed. A girl I was barely dating was suspicious I was in contact with my ex. I would not have even considered her my g/f so it seemed strange. She asked about her and then wanted to see my phone once. I had nothing to hide, but I thought it was weird and just kinda stopped talking to her.
Granted, I was seeing another girl at the time and I did eventually get back with my ex, but I had nothing to hide since I was not talking with my ex at the time and I had only been on like 3 dates with this chick.
Insta-dump for sure. Some facets of the work I do involves information security and as a result, I keep the vast majority of my data under lock and key, no matter what it is. Nobody knows my passwords, or has access to any of my computers, my phone, etc. so if anyone even tries to snoop on me I'll know pretty much instantly.
I have nothing to hide, but breaking trust and trying to gain access to data you have no right to look at is a major offense in my book. If you want to know something, ask. If I want you to know something without you asking, I'll tell you.
That would piss me right the fuck off. We'd box for sure.
Edit: I'm talking like, "Hey, I've been reading your emails for the past 6 months."not, "Hey, Lisa texted you while you were in the shower, I read it and she said to be over by 5." The level of snooping and intent would be the tipping point here.
I voted "I don't care. I have nothing to hide anyway." It wouldn't really bother me.
I've snooped before out of curiosity. I knew where my SO had a box of his exes pictures, and I just wanted to check them out to see what they looked like. Then I told him about it afterward because I felt like I was doing something wrong.
Personally I wouldn't even go that far. If the phone goes off I'll let the person know, but let them look at it. Only time I'd do otherwise is if I were asked to watch for a text from someone about something specific.
wow how many topics do we need on this?
we're missing at least a dozen more
and how do you know?
Because I've seen 1000+ threads in here from chronic insecure snoopers