So I think most of here have been both the dumpee and the dumper at some point. Personally I have experienced the whole range of abrupt endings to drawn out ones, from staying best friends to cutting off contact completely, from being in love and knowing it just won't work to passionately hating the person and never wanting to see them again. In my experience the best way to get over a relationship is to make the cut clean and fast followed by a halt of all communication between parties. It has been said, however, that if the person on the other end is caught off guard by this decision, this approach can be "cruel". So I figured I would pose the question to you all and get your opinions. Is ending it quickly and cutting off contact an unnecessarily harsh way to treat someone?