My husband has the potential to get his dream job. The problem that we face is that if he does, it means moving overseas. I have told him I am not prepared to follow him overseas as we have young children and there is another issue that prevents one of the children moving. To fix that issue would cost tens of thousands of dollars that we don't have. I would appreciate some fresh eyes on this issue. I understand that this is a big thing for him and that if he gets the chance and doesn't take it he will resent the reasons why it didn't happen. I want to support my husband and I want him to be happy. Taking this job would make him happy. If he were to take the job this wouldn't be the end of our marriage. He is the breadwinner and I am a housewife. If he were to get the job I would bring the children to visit during vacations. I don't know if I can cope looking after our children by myself. I will miss him alot and that could transfer on to the children. I don't want them to have a depressed mom. This would be his fifth job in as many years and the last time he took a job he said he would stay there for at least a few years. It hasn't been a few years yet. I don't want to feel that I am being held ransom to what he wants simply because he earns the money. I don't want him to resent me and always look at me and see someone who got between him and his dream job. I feel that it is all about him and what he wants and not what is best for the family as a whole unit. How much should someone be expected to put themselves out to support their spouse? Knowing how hard it would be for me to cope and how much I will want to blame him for it being hard, should I still still support him? I want him to be happy and I want him to take this job, but the cons out weigh the pros in my view. He will not take the job unless the money will support us here and him there. But if they were to offer enough what questions do we need to ask ourselves and answer honestly? We spoke about it the other night but I got upset and I felt like he was being selfish so I wasn't able to talk about it with a clear head.