Well im mostly trying to get some serious advice and direction. I will make this brief and to the point. Im @ 2 years with my fiance, love her to death. She is a single mother who unfortunetly was cheated on and basically used in her past relationship. She is honest, hard working (60+ hours a week while dealing with a kid). Her kid is 4 1/2 now. She just turned 27 I am 22 and single without much experience in the woman thing. We both love each other. I have noticed something though, at this point in our relationship I still cannot accept her child. I am sort of embarrassed when all 3 of us go out (not because of her, but the "child" thing). I have realized I will never feel comfortable and it is not fair for her or the kid to have to go through that. I realize that emotionally I will never be #1 in her life, since the day I met her her kid is #1 (And I do not disagree with that, that's how it should be if she is a good mother). Me still being young though, I want to experience new things, woman, but I don't want to cheat on her. I would never do that, or live 2 lifes. Something inside tells me to let her go and start a new life, but it would be devastating for me and for her, I mean she hasn't done anything wrong and neither have I. It is just something I should have realized 2 years ago when I met her. We work together as well (we met working side by side A break up would be so incredibly hard seeing her every day ( I would try to transfer, but it wouldn't be immediate) That's my dillema, separate with a woman whom in this day and age is a gem (has values, culture, respect and raised in a foreign country avoiding the "american" slut thing) and whom I love to go and experience new things, a single life with a younger woman with no kids. what is OT's opinion?