i didn't bother searching, sorry if this was already posted recently. after browsing through these forums, i've become confused about how to deal with females. i'll keep this short, because i hate biopics. i've read that you want to "push the girl away, then bring her back" or treat her like a "jerk" would. i guess i would probally sum up what i have learned with the sentence "if you don't like me, i don't care." the problem i have is that i DO care if they like me, and find it really tough to play this "bait and switch" game. not to mention i need to work on my self-confidence (cause and effect eh)... but it's just my nature (or nurture) to be kind to girls i like. if this is the problem then it would explain why almost every girl i have liked in the past has either shot me down, given me the no-go signs, or dropped off the face of the earth. so what am i asking here? aside from the venting, i just wonder why "nice guys finish last" and if there is any way around it. fuck.