ok well my hubby was home for two weeks for enviromental leave (he is in the military, deployed to Iraq) Anyway, I was basically telling him what I wanted him to do to me. I told him i wanted him to spank me, not just an occasional slap on the ass, i told him i wanted him to apply pressure to my throat, and i told him i wanted him to slap me in the face. i told him this while actual just sitting and talking, not while we were in the heat of the moment. I mean i showed him how i wanted it and i told him that if it did get to be to much then i would make it very clear.(safe word) well he told me he didnt feel comfortable doing it because he was afraid i would get upset with him then use sex as a way to get him to hit me and such and then i would call the MPs (Military Police) on him for domestic abuse. I couldn't think of anything to say to this, other than "basically you dont trust me" and he didnt say anything in response. so i dont know what i am supposed to do. I mean i know i have to be supportive and strong, because of what he is going through day in and day out in combat, but i just hope that after he gets home from the deployment and has some time to clear his head, he will realize that i want him to do this for my sexual gratification, i want to be treated like a dirty lil whore, i want to be fucked not "made love" to. not that there is anything wrong with that but it just isnt my cup of tea. Sorry about the issuez but i wanted to vent somewhere that i dont feel like i am being judged.