I've been single for several years now, not liking it too much, but with no attraction to specific women. Except the ones I work with, anyway. Yes, it's a little awkward. There are three women in my office: The software tester. Mid-30's, married, Indian. Skinny. Tries to teach her little boys how to resolve disputes non-violently, which is cute but also irritating. Won't hit her kids no matter how much they disrespect her; I've offered to hit them for her, and she laughs. Great ass and nice hair. Smart, but a little more feminine than I like. I used to work with her regularly, hardly at all now that the project we were both on is over. The office manager. 49, married again, American. Cancer surivior, but doesn't look like it. Saying I'm attracted to her is a stretch, but she's good-looking for her age and she's concluded that we are "work spouses". We eat lunch together often, and literally no topic is off-limits when we're not physically in the office. Confessed to participating in wet T-shirt contests back in the 80's. Mature enough that she doesn't give a shit about the posturing and prejudice that women younger than middle-age seem to be obsessed with, which I really like. If she were 20 years younger, single, and capable of having children, I'd definitely ask her out -- but then, she wouldn't be the person I like anymore. The new girl. I don't really know what her job title is yet, but she does a bunch of stuff with CAD and spreadsheets. 23, single (I think), at least half Taiwanese. A little shorter than me. Smallish breasts, ass isn't there, and she slouches a little bit like she's still insecure about her womanhood. Likes to rock-climb and snowboard; this makes me feel like a fat lazy slob. Carries a laptop bag instead of a purse. Likes knitted jackets with popped collars. She laughs at my jokes. She's also the daughter of the director of another division of the company, who works in my office as well. - - - It should be pretty obvious that I got to thinking about what I'm attracted to because of the last one, so I might as well go ahead and say there's not a chance in hell I'd go out with her without making sure her father is cool with it. I'm not about to risk losing my job in the middle of a recession. Anyway, I've concluded that I'm not attracted to women who are particularly feminine; you'll notice none of these women is at home baking cookies. Actually, it would be better to say I'm repulsed by feminine behavior, though I've already been there/done that and I know I'm not interested in guys. I mean, I'm attracted to the software tester's intelligence, the office manager's personality and candor, and the new girl's choice of recreational sports. These are not things that girly-girls are known to possess. Even my physical attraction is pretty much inversely-related to the size of their breasts, though the common thread of "they got parts I don't" is definitely there. I suppose it might seem obvious given what I listed off, but honestly, it never occurred to me before. I've dated a small number of women, and I was always more comfortable with the ones that were less feminine, but I simply never put 2+2 together. I have no idea why. So the next question is, where the fuck do I meet tomboys that I'm not working with, and thus can consider dating?