Discussion in 'On Topic' started by Vixxen, Jan 30, 2007.
arghhhh!! might just be the weather ...
Must be the Weather.
i kinda like the rain
i'm sure you do
well it's not raining inside
it is where i am
you don't have a skylight, let alone a broken one.
and you don't have a computer in your shower either
how do you know?
You know Vixxen, you always have a problem exposing your own feelings , you always assume that someone will hurt you. But personally i really think that you should initiate the dialogue and as long as its done with trustworthy people it should become discussable, instead of making your heart a murder hole.
Im saying that because a problem that isn't discussed cannot be solved, although i won't want to force you because i know your hesitant, i hope you can give some clues as to what you think is causing your self hatred.
yes, i know and yes, i always get hurt.
i don't know how to initiate the dialogue because there's just so much in my head and i don't know where to begin.
part of me knows what the problem is and even the solution to it, but accepting it is the difficult part.
try writing it down
writing it down? for what? and didn't i tell you i was cleaning?
Don't try to mix your thoughts. Put them in order and write them down 1 by one.
Even if you have a lot of thoughts, every thought forms 1 issue which you can write down, and which you should write down immediatly before you start with your next thought. If you immediatly write it down and don't mix it with the next thought that you have. Then you can formulate your feelings in a correct way.
and what if the issue is me? i hate myself because i want to change what i am and cannot.
You aren't a slave, be the master of the situation instead of letting yourself being victimized by it. If you make a different choice in your life, you can change the situation.
If you really think that then you've already failed.
I hate to sound like Dr. Phil, but what he says about wanting to change is true. If you really want to change then you will, if you don't then you won't. Admit it, part of you enjoys the actions that lead you to the state you are in.
Whether those actions be eating junk food, or doing drugs or whatever, their consequences do not outweigh the pleasure of doing them or else you would stop. So think hard and clear about what you want to change, and what the real reason for not changing those things is. Then decide whether the change is worth it.
Oh and if you take my advice and it works, then feel free to thank me with lots of sexoring and such.
Does this revolve around what we talked about?
It seems most of us have been left out of this talking about.