of other ones i've been in. Morgen and boy start dating Everything goes very well, for a bit, he treats her well, is open about feelings, she doesn't have to do any of the work emotionally. Morgen finds out boy is secretly a giant ball of depression, anxiety, and other psychological bullshit. Morgen leaps into "ohmygosh I can save him" mode, and drops everything to take care of boy. Boy develops a drug problem, or formerly developed drug problem becomes apparent to Morgen. Morgen again, does everything within her hyper-maternal power to help boy get clean and get his life on track. Everything blows up in Morgen's face. The obvious answer here is to not date users, but I don't always know that they are at the beginning. The real problem here is that i'm hyper maternal and I want to take care of people. This has ALWAYS been an issue for me. As a kid I would take in injured animals and try to nurse them back to health. I have a homeless guy I feed on a pretty regular basis. I spend a LOT of time trying to help out my roommate, who's had a lot of emotional problems his whole life. I give away my money and time like its water if I think it will help someone. I realize, that this really isn't helping anyone. I can't help but take care of people. I've tried volunteering and stuff, but I never feel like i'm doing anything. I know the answer is 'find some way to get out your need to care for things in a way that isn't going to fuck your shit up' but, ugh, I always get into these situations without really realizing I am. Should I buy more houseplants? Get a sick cat? I'm at a loss.