Probably not as big a problem as some of you guys, but basically I just cant seem to motivate myself to change, to find a job, to learn some skills. Background: I've been like this for a good few years already - im going on to university year one in september, which is a good thing. Whats killing me is Im sleeping late, waking up late, on the computer 10 hours a day, playing random games, chatting with friends, on forums, etc. I've been trying to find a job since early april (Im 17 y.o) but never got anything stable. the main problem comes in - my personality. Im somewhat a combination of being irresponsible, greedy, selfish, introverted, lazy, unconfident, depressed, and boring. Goals: Okay, so theres a girl I've liked for 3 years... shes chased after by most guys who meet her, and for a time I felt stupid to just go after her with other guys like a rat race. But lifes all about making yourself happy, getting the things you want the most - so I've decided to change myself dramatically this summer. Im short, skinny, boring, not rich, and talent/skill-less. Probably above average looks, but my personality kills it off. Im only good at math/science crap, and lots of random bits of information. Im not good at sports (maybe only badminton), gaming, music, or whatever; had one gf, havent been laid (dont really care about sex for now). I've decided to get a job, workout, play sports, make new friends, etc. - all in hopes of becoming more extroverted, manly, humorous, desirable, etc. I'm doing this for that girl i like, and to become a better person during a new stage in life - University. Problem: I keep telling myself i'll change tomorrow, but it never happens. All I do is rant to my friends about how slow my life is progressing. i wish i could just tell myself to "shut the fuck up and do it", but I cant. Whats stopping me? Myself.