Just like the Green Bastard's thread earlier, I have the same thing goin on now God Damn....Me and you both TGB. But I did a mistake by asking her to come join me in a housing program I am gettin into. I asked her to file papers with me so we could get a place together and this freaked her out. She didn't show it but I guess it did. I realized this afterwards....and I mean, literally, like 15 minutes afterwards of asking her. I was like 'why did i do that?' But I just went with the emotion that I had at the time. I woke up with in her bed, knowing that I was going to have to leave her later that day and I didn't want too, with her next to me and her daughter and a sudden emotion of love came over me that I just started to ask her all of that. I just had a long weekend with my girlfriend. Friday nite/Saturday/Sunday Mornin. I left her Sunday, I thought everything was peachy. I came home and she calls me up after she went to a baseball game with her dad/sister, first she tells me she called me because she missed me and then she tells me she is not ready for a serious relationship. Basically the first phone call was her telling me that she wanted to break up with me. I literally lost it because it was so left field I didn't believe it. I started to cry and I just wanted to know why. She gave me the "its not you, its me line." Then she had to end the call because her daughter was crying so she hung up as I was left wondering WTF. How can she call me up and say she misses me then tells me she wants to break up with me? Then I texted her a couple of mins later and then I called her 15mins later. She said she still needs to figure so many things about herself and she has serious angry issues with her past and she is young and she wants to "explore" life in general. She said she still hasn't done so much stuff. She said she needs space. She also said she misses me but then she says that me spending Friday nite/Saturday/Sunday might be too much for her???? I thought that since we spent so much time apart from each other, that spending those days with her would be good for the relationship. I never got the slightest inklings from her that it was too much....I dunno where that came from..... She also said that her daughter is growin very fond of me and when she sees me gets very happy and that she doesn't even get like that when her own father comes to pick her up. She said her father just carries her around like a trophy whereas I don't. Then I started to figure out that maybe its just the stress she has in her life is takin a toll on her. First she has a job where she is working 12hr shifts, Monday - Thursday for the most part. Then she has a 1yr old daughter, then she has her family (two sisters, mom & dad). And then she has me and I said maybe juggling all these things is just too much for her and she said it is. and I said so maybe you were wondering which of these things is just more of which you could do less of and its obvious its me because she can't see less of her kid or her family and she's not going to do less of her job because she needs it. All in all, I told her I will be their for her. I told her I was fine with being in 4th place behind her daughter, family and job. I told her I just wanted to be their for her and help her through whatever she needs help with. If a serious relationship is not what she wants then we can take it slow, I told her. I told her that breakin up is not the solution to the problems. If we love each other, then throwing that away is not the solution. I asked maybe we need a break or just some more time apart and she said that a break would not help because if she is having problems with the time apart that we have now and a break or more time apart would not help. I asked her since time apart is not what we need and we can't be closer because my job is here and I live here, and she lives where she lives, then what is the solution and she said you tell me. I told her the other option that you said earlier would be breakin up and breaking up would be like not seeing each other which is not fixing anything but she said no that would be like wiping the slate clean and just not see each other anymore at all. And then I asked her to ask herself deep in her heart if breaking up with me is really what she wants to do??? And she replied with "I don't know." I don't get it....She says "I love you" and I say it back......I don't know whats going on with her. We talked so much stuff that this is just the basis of it, right now I don't even remember half of it anymore, I am just so tired and I feel like I aged 5yrs after that first and second conversation..... I got off the phone with her bout 30mins ago and she said we are ok. but i'm still really sad because I just don't get how she could tell me she wanted to break up with me.........the only conclusion I can come too is that by me askin her to join the program with me scared/freaked her out and thats how she reacted to it. I dunno......I'm still confused on what to do and how to react and what to think and just everything.........overall..... I went and talked to my friend at starbucks and he helped me which was good. I just had to get more stuff out and after reading TGB's post, its just weird that we are in the same boat.