one of those rare one-in-a-million types. Intelligent, stunningly beautiful, really kind and warm hearted, great personality, slightly innocent, close to her family, great chemistry between us... i really didnt think i would ever meet anyone better or better suited for me. She is twenty-two (but looks younger bc at 100 lbs, she's pretty small) and I am twenty-six... and i thought that was a good match age-wise too. We were hanging out after classes for most of the previous 2 weeks and I was completely falling for her. It was the first time in 8 yrs where i was actually beginning to "like" someone. Then in a phone conversation over the weekend, she lets out in the most nonchalant voice that she has a boyfriend. Why she was spending so much time with me, i didnt understand... but it hit me pretty badly. Two days later, she tells me that her boyfriend is thirty-two, a full decade older than her. I've been grossed out about it since. All i can think about is a mental picture of some hairy middle-aged guy bragging to his beer buddies about how he landed a young little girl. Yes, i know thirty-two isnt all that old, but its old enough in this case... and definitely too old for a 22 yr old (her family wasnt happy about her choice either). I feel like she's being taken advantage of without her having any idea (i also get another mental picture of them "together"). I dont know him, so perhaps he's really decent and not like that at all... but it doesnt seem likely since us guys know that guys in general are always trying to land young girls. Plus, this is a touchy subject for me bc the previous gf i did have (literally 8 yrs ago) was a very intense relationship who DID get taken advantage of numerous times in her life, including being raped 3times before i met her. Now when i'm around this current girl in my class, it's killing me inside all the time (every single moment) b/c i feel that i really do like her alot and wish to be more than just friends. But now even if she somehow she ended up breaking up with her bf and wanted to date me, i'm too grossed out to accept the offer (is this being irrational?). She's too kind and innocent to be viewed as a skeezy girl hooking up with her older guys, so all i can see her as is a warm hearted naive girl being used... and thats what makes it so painful. I guess more than anything, i just wanted someone who would listen since there is nothing i can do now (after all, she is taken). Still, if you have any good advice, i'm willing to listen. I'm stuck for a while in this phase, but i figure eventually the emotions will get old and emotionally tiresome, and the entire thing may just fade away. In the mean time, we're becoming closer friends everyday and i cant cut her out of my life b/c i had a issues with loneliness before i met her.