Im going back to school in about a week and I want things to seriously change for myself. During my entire bachelor's degree, I was a quiet kid who would usually avoid social contact with other students. I was quiet in class. I rarely studied in groups, etc etc... Last year I had one friend who I talked to and studied with, but finding more has been very hard for me. Let alone being able to actually have relations with females in my school. This year I would like to become more active, but its going to be a challenge. My problem is with anxiety. I live in a constant state of anxiety. Whether it be in social situations or sitting by myself in the library. I'm always aware of whats going on around me. I can't concentrate on what im supposed to do, rather I just concentrate on everything around me. Doctors, meds or psychiatrists have not helped me at all. I'm also brutal at carrying on conversations. I just don't know what to say to people. For instance, I have met girls at school and have studied with some on occasion, but I don't know how to get to know them. Seems that all we ever talk about is the subject we are studying. For once I would like to be able to talk to these people when we are not studying and perhaps get to know them better, but I can't seem to do this. Also, I would like to get to meet male friends since I really have none at this point in my life, nor have I had any for the past few years. Where in school does one meet friends? I'm sure I could meet them in the library, in class and during lectures and what not, but again, how does one go about doing this?