I normally give her a card + $ every year (she prefers $). but this year is bit different, I had to pay off a bunch of crap this month - like student loan, car, etc and am on a tight budget. I cant give her $, so what should I do? I cant tell her I have no extra money to give her because she would kill me - she would know something is up and then we would get into another arguement about my past debts etc (want to avoid that trust me!). So, I know this sounds bad but I was thinking that I should maybe just pretend like I forgot her birthday. Because I know she wont accept anything past her birthday since she believes its bad luck. So if she reminds me a day after her birthday that it was her birthday on Monday, and I offered to still give her something - she wouldnt accept...meaning I could get off the hook this one time. I know that sounds real bad, but I dont know what to do.