(I mean self improvement things, but I couldn't fit "v. self improvement things" in the thread subject) 1. Building wealth 2. Being physically attractive 3. Being very good in bed #1 - duh, I want to retire ASAP. My cock literally gets hard at the thought of the moment when work becomes an option for me. #2 - probably based in insecurities since for most of my life I have always been the skinny pale weak kid (oh herro there BDD, even tho I've made improvements). I want women (specifically my SO) to be blown the fuck away by how I look. Sometimes when I see a super hot woman my heart skips a beat and all blood redirects to my penis. I want to elicit that reaction in women (minus the "blood going to the penis part, I'm not interested in that kind of woman). I realize women aren't as visual as men (which is why there's PUA) but still. I also don't ever want anyone to see me and my SO and think "wow, that guy must be rich to get a girl that hot." I want other women to see me and think "damn, I wish my husband was as hot as that guy." You can tell when they're thinking that. It's awesome. Insecurities, right? I never really got physical validation growing up so I guess I'm craving it now #3 - probably somehow rooted in insecurity, but I always want gf/wife/whoever to enjoy sex with me. Not that I've ever gotten any complaints, but I also want to be the best lover anyone has ever had (so that would be an insecurity, right?). I don't think I could date or marry someone who didn't think I was the best they'd been with because I know that subconsciously, and then later consciously, they would be resentful and missing out. I mean, most people have sex and/or fuck, but I want to EXCEL at it. I don't want some boring ass sexual relationship. I like the chick to say "DAMN i've never been FUCKED LIKE THAT before" (in a good way, not like I did some weird ass Japanese porn sex position with tentacles or something) Besides, how fucking awesome would I be if I was rich, super hot, and awesome in bed? Of course there are other things I want in life, but these are the 3 big "self-improvement" ones. It struck me when abomb (or was it Xapuim?) was talking about how the Jersey Shore crew, despite being phenomenally huge douche bags, it was cool how they strove to be super sexualized (or something like that, he phrased it better than me). Pretty much everything I do is aimed at one of those 3 things. - I run my own business. I save money. I invest. - I go to the gym. I try to eat enough calories to gain weight when I'm not sick. (I used to tan fairly often but I stopped for the most part because I am afraid of skin cancer). It's really tough for me, I'm like ridiculously fucking pale and have been made fun of for it for my entire life. I hate going out in the summer and if I have to go to the pool or beach, I will start tanning beforehand so I'm not completely reflective. For some reason I can't figure out, my gf says she likes my pale skin. Boggles my fucking mind but I guess that's awesome for me. Maybe some pale dude was really nice to her when she was a little girl and it got implanted in her mind as a good thing. I frequently worry that one day she'll see me next to some guy with nice skin and it will suddenly click "wow, he does have gross skin." - I fuck my gf and make her cum Judge me, Vag. Am I setting sail to fail aboard the insecurity boat?