It is that I centralize myself way too much on a bunch of words and specific commentaries. When the moment arrives, and it doesn't happen like I predicted it, then I give up. I plan too much, and when it doesn't happen that way, or something else happens, I am at a loss of words. My solution is that I have to be dynamic. To put it simply, you can't go to talk to a girl with a single set of words, because the situationhappens at every moment. You gotta be dynamic. Do not plan, or think anything. Just improvise.