I'll try to keep this as short as I can. So ask for more details if I leave key info out. Been with my now wife for 6 yrs. 2 we dated, 2 engaged, 2 married. Early in the RS we had issues that revolved around sex. Started it off with her wanting it all the time and died off after 6 months when we moved in. Not only that but she is not a very affectioanate person. Normally that has never bothered me but combine that with the lack of sex and it had always led to thinking I was not pleasing her for one reason or another. No matter how much I asked what I could do to change things nothing came up (she was attracted to me, sex was good, blah blah... she just does not like sex as much). I basically ended up dealing with it although every so often I could not take it and brought it up leading to arguments. She also spends a lot of time of the internet on a forum and AIMs people she meets from there, including one specific guy. FFW to 5 yrs and 8 months later ... no need to mention I was an idiot for keeping this going, I already know..... and then this happened. Valentines day. I buy her flowers, a present, we go to a romantic dinner. We come home and what is the first thing she does? You guessed it... she goes on line to talk to him. I decided that was it. I give her an altimatum that either she puts more effort towards us romantically or I'm out. This was the first time I ever threaten her with this. Before we always tried to work it out and even went to couseling. I regret giving her an altimatum. Not bc I dont think I was right but bc I knew it would do nothing. If anything she may focus on it to not lose me but not actually change bc she wanted to. So its now 9 months after the altimatum and no changes. I turn 28 in Feb and I think it's time for me to move on. Other then me being a dumb ass for waiting so long what are your thoughts? Especially on the altimatum. I guess I feel like an ass for wanting to end my marriage over sex but that combined w. her wanting to talk to this dude over being w. me on valentines day ended it for me. Im not happy at all and do not want to waste anymore time on this RL when I could be out having fun.