Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by 1200mk, May 7, 2005.
someone break this down for me.
Yeah......I want to understand this too!
i am thinking... the saying means if you let them go and they do their own thang and if they come back later that means that they really did love you?
i guess it makes sense.
If you can set aside what you want for someone else, and prove it to them by letting them go, then the feeling is mutually proven if you find yourself back together at some point.
if you let them go it shows you care more about what they want and their happiness. there are all sorts of songs about this like "if you let something go and it comes back to you, then it was yours all along..."
i dunno how i feel about it though.
"if you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it's yours; if it doesn't, it never was"
If you love something enough
And you've done all that you can
If there's one thing I have known and learned first hand
Sometimes you have to just let it go away
if you love them let them go. if they come back it means they couldn't find anyone better so they'll setting for your sorry ass. honestly if you really want someone, would you want to leave? i don't think so
if you truly love someone, you want them to be happy. this means, in some situations where you love them, but they dont love you in return, the kindest thing you can do for them is to set them free. this takes a bigness on your part. some things just arent ment to be, no matter how hard you try. at that point, letting go and moviing on will bring about the greatest happieness for both parties involved.
you can force something that wasnt ment to be. this isnt saying some things arent worth fighting for, just that you need to realize both people need to want it otherwise your efforts are futile and harmful.
or, its just a stupid saying. you make it what you want to make it.
if you love them enough.. you love them whether they are happy with or without you.
i love/loved my ex.. we broke still loving each other but knew we were heading in different directions so i loved him enough to let him go so that he willbe sooo happy and really enjoy life. thats my point of view anyway.
what if you love someone and they just want to be your friend and continue to hang out with you but only be your friend? what do you people think about this?
be the best friend you can. dont push the romantic aspect; that can make them feel odd around you. just be yourself, and be there for them.
and saying 'i told you so' isnt always necessary.
except I believe the concept and thats basically what I did for my ex.
In my case, I still Love my Ex, but I realize that there's nothing I can do anymore, so I stopped trying, that's my definition
my g/f broke up with me ... at the time I could have fought hard and gotten her back instantly but I decided to let her go and let her do her thing ...
shit was painful ...
she came back ... my story ends happily ... not many do though ...
basically its putting another persons happiness before yours ... if letting her/him go will make her/him happy, then do so ... no matter what the cost to you. If they come back to you, then he/she was geniuinely yours. or they are settling,
....If they don't come back, hunt them down and kill them.
(real old seventies t-shirt I had when I was a kid)
I went through this myself with my current GF. The thing to remember about two people in a relationship is this:
It takes TWO people to sustain a relationship, but it takes only ONE to break it off.
What does this mean? It means "fighting" the wishes of the one who wants to break things off seldom results in a good outcome, because either way they're leaving . . . all you're really doing by "fighting" it is making the breakup happen over worse terms.
I must say, it was the hardest thing (emotionally) that I've ever been put through in my life, but I stuck through it, knowing she really loved me but needed to answer some questions for herself. Now we're back together (going on eight months) and things are amazing. She absolutely wants to be my GF, and there is no doubt in our relationship.
Granted, this doesn't work for everyone. It takes really knowing the other person to know if they're gonig to come back. What I can say with absolute certainty is this . . . letting them go will be hard, but if they come back, it will have been one of the big tests of a relationship's strength.
I did it . 2 years later we go back together after seeing other people and it's never been better
good work its a hard thing to do though
Best answer of the day.
if you love them let them go. there's nothing worse than doing everything in your will to keep them and having the relationship break off on bad terms. let them go and they will always see you in a good light. if they don't come back, it was never meant to be.
For the "if you love someone, let them go" I agree with some above people. If you truly love them and they want to leave you and the relationship, it shows you truly love and care about their feelings by letting them go. Dont make it harder on them by trying to work things out, guilt trips... whatever other things we humans do when we are in pain.
As for the part where "They come back and it was meant to be" or "they were really yours all along" I dont agree with at all. I dont think if someone loves you in the first place, they would leave. I mean, is it they needed some time to think (think about what?!), to see whats *out* there? Are they trying to find someone/thing better then YOU? Do they come back because they realize you are the best they can do? I like watching this kind of stuff at the movies, but in my personal life dont practice it.
i personally think it is possible for someone to leave someone they love. Sometimes love itself just isn't enough to keep people together. It doesn't always work out because you simply love someone, it takes a whole lot more than that.
Maybe I should have been more specific. I do think there are circumstances that call pull people apart and then they end up back together where the saying holds some value. For instance I have a set of friends who were a great couple but he is Chinese, she is Korean and her family worked hard to break them up. But their love prevailed. So I guess anything can be circumstantial. But as for having your SO leave you because they need "time" or because they want to "see what else is out there" I do not believe the saying holds any value if they end up coming back. Especially for people who leave someone, date someone new and then go back to the original SO.