My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 years. Things have been really good. We both make about the same money, and are doing good financially. We travel often, and get a long great. All in all, it's a very healthy and mature relationship without much bs. I can't complain. The problem is 3-4 years ago she was a little depressed about life. Feeling out of shape, hated her job, etc, etc. I listened to her, and did what I could to help her through this. She took a few months off her other job, and focused on a home business she had. After a few months she got things figured out, and kind of got over it. Of course I asked if it was something about our relationship, and if it was to just tell me. She assured me it was just her own personal battle she was dealing with. No reason to push the issue I figured. On a side note she did have some what of an eating disorder when she was young. She had overcome it as far as I knew. She let me know all about this in the beginning. Maybe she was still trying to overcome it? I couldn't pretend to even know how to help so I kept my distance, and did what I could for her. So my problem... So a few days ago, I was going through the work e-mail looking for an address. It just happen to be sometime in 2005. While searching page by page I saw an e-mail title that caught my eye. “Hurry Please Read”. It looked out of place, and without really thinking I just clicked on it. Basically the e-mail was asking her mother to reply to her previous e-mail (which must have been erased) to her personal address, and not the work e-mail. It was brief and basically said “I don't want [me] to find out about this” Something clicked in my head, and it all seemed to make sense now. I was furious, and upset. I had to know the truth. The problem is she is currently away visiting a sick family member, and doing this over the phone would be a douchebag move. I'd rather this be in person if I confronted her about it. I lost my normal calm attitude about everything, and it was freaking me out. I'm normally fairly level headed, and it takes a lot to get me worked up. I lost it... I'm ashamed to say I actually looked in her old diary around the same date she sent that e-mail. It fucking kills me that I did this because I've given her 100% trust in our relationship, and I know she feels the same way about me. She knows my e-mail password, so if she really wanted to check up on me I suppose she could. So I'm feeling terribly guilty right now. Reading just a page or two confirmed what my gut was telling me. Without any real details, she said she was in contact with someone and didn't know what to do about it. Should she "take a chance with him, and risk losing everything we had together” She said she was happy with her life, so she wasn't sure why she was considering it. We moved out of the city we met in. So my guess is she was in contact with an ex from back there. I'm crushed. What should I do? This was a few years ago, and we've been doing great since. I know this may really fuck things up, but it's not fair to hide this inside. I'm afraid I will treat her differently without knowing it. So, I'm tempted to snoop in her e-mail. Should I just be a complete asshole and do this? I've never had a reason to not trust her, so now I feel like a fool. I don't know what it is but I have to know. I don't think I can just let this fade away. If it was just through e-mail, and nothing else happened I could live with that and maybe see if we can salvage things. If there is more to this story, and things were taken to another level, than unfortunately it's time to end this relationship. On top of things we have a vacation coming up soon. I can't talk to anyone about this. At what point do you just say fuck it, and do what you can to find out the truth? Why should I respect her privacy when she has already betrayed my trust for her? Fuck me. Please help.. Cliffs: Had a suspicion about my GF, pulled a dick head move and snooped around and found out I was right. Should I continue looking to find out the truth?