I'm terrible at flirting, any tips?

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  1. ballerman230

    ballerman230 just a pale blue dot

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    I was reading the conversation thread and realized that I'm pretty comfortable in conversation, but I really have no idea how to flirt. When a girl does try to flirt with me I used not not even realize it until later, and now I can recognize it but I still don't know what to do.
    I can't even think of an analytical definition of flirting. I'm sure some of you are doing the :ugh: face at this point, but that's just how I know I understand (or don't) something.
    I've seen things like "tease her a little bit," but I'm not sure how do that with a girl that I don't already have rapport with. How can I pick something to tease her about out of the blue? Making a joke about her fashion seems like a good way to trainwreck a conversation.
    I feel kind of retarded because of this this, but it just doesn't come naturally to me like it does for most guys it seems. Any help here?
     
  2. dumbaznboy

    dumbaznboy New Member

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    ive never really come up with a hard and fast definition of flirting...(when asked if there was flirting going on between me and a female...i always have to ask, what do you mean by flirting...im clueless to be honest).

    but from what ive gathered...playful hitting/touching esp when teasing is flirting.
     
  3. Pringles

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    it's the art of using normal words in sexual ways. Or bringing sex into the conversation so it turns from normal person to person to we want to fuck tone. You have to make sexual references and very slightly at the start to see if shes feeling it. If so then go deeper and more aggressive. Body language says a lot more than words though.
     
  4. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    Step 1: Past a goofy grin on your face
    Step 2: Give her praise
    Step 3: Negate praise by being a dick
    Step 4: Touch her
    Step 5: Give her a hard time about something
    Step 6: Touch her again and wiggle your eyebrows
    Step 7: Bed her

    Repeat

    See? I got this PUA stuff down tight.
     
  5. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    :rofl:

    and you can go from step 1 to step 7 with one easily attainable magic potion!
     
  6. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    I still got some of my potion left over if anybody wants to buy it.

    About a half a bottle, so I'll give it to you for half price...$49.99
     
  7. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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  8. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    does that include S&H? cause if it doesn't then its waaaay overpriced.
     
  9. mrchina

    mrchina Guest

    This is going to sound weird... but treat the girl like your best friends 18 year old sister.
     
  10. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    um...........elaborate, please?
     
  11. mrchina

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    I will when I get back, I know tis vague. I'm going to the gym for an hour.

    BallerMan or anyone, give us some examples of what you've done in the past in situations you find yourself commonly saying "damn, how can I flirt with this chick". Basically everything is situational so it's hard to say do X and Y while avoiding Z... i mean, generally almost every situation has things in common like the whole mystical teasing, touching, joking, etc... I'm no Don Juan, I don't do the pick up artist thing, but I can carry my weight.
     
  12. Dwnhillracer15

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    that kinda makes sense
     
  13. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    guys let's ask OT how to flirt when there are books written by guys who have fucked hundreds of woman that explain how to do it
     
  14. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    Heh, actually most of those books don't really talk about flirting that much.

    Flirting is a good way to get yourself friendzoned if you are not careful.
     
  15. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    wuh.... what
     
  16. Victoriono

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    1. Do you floss before or after you brush?
    2. Neg
    3. Did you see the fight outside?

    That's all there is to it.
     
  17. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    :rofl:

    I want to witness a guy actually using that line.
     
  18. bjonesy77

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    I can see where you are coming from for sure. Flirting is a very very delicate thing, if you get out of the "zone" its really hard to get back. The hardest part is initiating the flirting, obviously because if it is someone you don't know, you have no way to establish a connection on that level. So you have to build that connection, which is very difficult if it doesnt just come natural to you. For me, it doesnt come natural, so I have to actually plan out things to use as ammo. Try making jokes about your surroundings at first, if she responds then initiate the flirtatious attitude. Make comments about her shoes or her attire, but NEVER about her actual appearance as a whole. Make playful remarks that could be mistaken for slightly sexual, but probably not. Keep her on her toes, make her feel like she has to keep up with the conversation. And there is one thing that Ive learned from the PUA stuff that actually works, when you shake her hand, slightly rotate it clockwise so her hand ends up on top. I dont know what signal, but it sends some signal that gives the "go ahead" to her.
     
  19. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    that is largely a massive load of horse shit. playful remarks that COULD be mistaken for slightly sexual? To display what, your fear of expressing your sexuality? rotating her hand clockwise when you shake her hand and meet her to give her the "go ahead" lololol what the fuck, do not insult the pickup community with that. what the fuck lololol
     
  20. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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  21. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    :rofl::rofl::rofl:
     
  22. bjonesy77

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    so what do you say when you walk up to women? "hello sweetie, want to touch my man meat?" or do you go for the "I'd love to get that pussy wet"

    What works for you, and what works for me are 2 very different things. Im not comfortable with women naturally, its just not something I have. You may be differently and things just flow for you, I dont know? Also, I'd imagine the women you try to pick up are very different than the ones I try to pick up.
     
  23. bjonesy77

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    And the pick up community? WTF? do you guys have a club or what? When you have an off night do you guys gather together for a circle jerk? And honesly, a lot of PUA talks about the initial handshake
     
  24. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    no, i am not comfortable with women naturally at all. but the way i became comfortable with them is from learning pickup PROPERLY and only taking and giving advice that ACTUALLY works. and unless you go exclusively ugly chicks, i imagine the types of women we are interested in overlap.
     
  25. bjonesy77

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    Well then if you PROPERLY learned, please inform me where you learned your techniques. I'm always up to improving
     

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