this may be kind of a long read, just a heads up... Ok, so recently my company just hired a new girl out of state (North Carolina) to work in my department. At first glance / meeting I thought she was attractive (not like supermodel attractive and by OT standards she'd probably end up being about a 5 or 6 out of 10), but really nothing special. I didn't really think anything of it at the time but deep down I knew there was just something about her that I gravitated towards.. immensely. Well, after being around each other at work and hanging out after work with other people (also co-workers) we've gotten to know each other pretty well and my attraction towards her has grown CONSIDERABLY. I usually don't get feelings like this towards someone until AFTER I've started dating them for a while or been in a relationship with them for a period of time, but for some reason with her I've developed this infatuation almost. I can't explain why or how this happened but is seriously fucking with me. We have a ton of things in common and she has pretty much all of the values I look for in a woman, I mean if I was going to marry someone she would be a perfect candidate. Now here's the tricky part, she's in a relationship with someone and has been for 3 years. He's a musician and is on the road touring a lot and has some seroius baggage with an ex-wife and a son which she has said kind of bothers her because the ex-wife is still in his life as well as the son. Now this may be wishful thinking on my part, but I've seen relationships like this end eventually at some point nearly every time. And so this kinda brings me to my question and/or dillema that I'm seeking advice on: 1. Should I tell her how I feel about her even though the possiblity exists that it could make things at work "weird" if the feeling isn't mutual? 2. Should I wait and hold back on telling her how I feel until her current relationship ends (assuming it does at some point)? I'm really at my wit's end here but I really don't know what the best course of action should be. I suspect that there is some mutual attraction there because every time we're around one another there is this strange, but good feeling vibe. I'm leaning towards not saying anything and just letting things develop naturally and if it's meant to be, then it's meant to be, but at the same time I'm absolutely terrified of missing my opportunity (if it's there) if I keep my mouth shut. what the fuck do I do?