Feels weird posting any of this here but I need advice from somebody that doesnt know me. Been married little over 4 years. I am now 26 and met her in high school where we lived in a pretty small town. Relationship basically started out long distance after she moved off to college. We got married after she graduated then I decided I wanted to go back to school as well. So our entire relationship has been primarily during my time back in college. With opposite work schedules and me in class our time together the past 4 years has been very limited. I feel that she has grown ever more distant from me. She says she loves me still but over all she has stopped being affectionate. I mean I get the hey how are ya, i love ya, kiss thing couple times a day.............but over all I just dont feel anything anymore when we are together. Im not sure if its the stress of working full time and going to school full time thats just stretching us thin or if things are just fizzled out. We got married pretty young. Im wondering if what I thought was actual love back then was me mistaken a deep enfactuation for this woman because I thought she was outta my league when we started dating. My problem is I just dont know what to do next. She once told me that she would rather live an unhappy life than to have to go through a divorce. So how do I know if how she acts or what she tells me she feels for me is even the truth. Ive found myself thinking about this crap constantly and its pretty much consuming my life. Its driving me insane. It almost feels, because of the lack of physical activity and affection, that we have evolved more into the role of roomates and best friends than husband and wife. I still have feelings for her but cant live the rest of my life in a relationship where my actions and feelings are not recipricated. I have talked to her in the past about it. Told her how I felt. She said she would work on it. She seemed to improve and things got better for a few weeks then she just kinda faded back to the way things were. So here I stand. Lost as ever. Any thoughts? Anyone in here been through a divorce?