LOVE Is my mom oblivious or does she know?

Naturally Baked

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Sep 24, 2007
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So I went out on that "date" tonight right? Well, my mom asked me what I did and I wasnt gonna lie so I said "I went out with that guy I told you I met last night" and she was like "Oh? How was it?" I go "it was good, he picked me up and we just went to starbucks and talked for a few hours...hes so nice" and shes like "thats good, im glad you made a nice friend" :hsugh:

I mean, did the fact I said "he picked me up and we went to starbucks and talked" just out me?
 

Pen Is Mightier

She knows. You've posted so many stories of how she mentioned things about being gay and all kinds of stuff. She's just waiting on you to come out. lol
 

Pen Is Mightier

DO IT. :mamoru:

PM/AIM me if you need to talk about it or have questions. :o

AIM: deeeeetrik
 

geniks

king of the hill
Oct 11, 2007
1,142
Charlotte NC
Sometimes they're wrong. My entire family has thought I'm gay since I was a little kid because I never liked getting my hands dirty. When I was in the early grades, my teachers would always call home because if there was an activity where I had to get my hands dirty I would refuse to do it. Like finger painting :rofl:
hell my dad used to make me go into the woods and load the wheel barrow up with rocks for a stone wall all fucking day, i'd start it.. but i'd eventually lift up the wrong rock and find a snake, snakes or a nest of fire ants.. i would always eventually flip the fuck out and refuse to work any more, meanwhile i brothers had no problem doing it all..

ha ha
 

Sam Gamgee

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Oct 5, 2001
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She probably knows and wanted you to say "Mom, he's not just a friend. I went on a date"

I could be wrong, but it sounds to me that she's trying to be respectful of your coming out process (instead of pulling you out of the closet like my parents did).
 

RX Bandit

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May 9, 2002
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I agree with Sam in part.

It seems like she knows. At the same time it seems like she is fine with the current blurry overview of your activities. It seems like she is testing the water and will eventually dive in. But she is probably not ready for the moment.

It is just my opinion and that is all it is, but I would avoid the big coming out moment for now. Let her slowly get more comfortable with it through oblique hints and you may never need to do the big moment. She will just accept it totally one day.

Your mother seems really cool by the way.
 
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Naturally Baked

Naturally Baked

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I agree with Sam in part.

It seems like she knows. At the same time it seems like she is fine with the current blurry overview of your activities. It seems like she is testing the water and will eventually dive in. But she is probably not ready for the moment.

It is just my opinion and that is all it is, but I would avoid the big coming out moment for now. Let her slowly get more comfortable with it through oblique hints and you may never need to do the big moment. She will just accept it totally one day.

Your mother seems really cool by the way.

At times she can be...sometimes I think she will be completely okay with it then others I think she'll kick me out...so its mixed, im not sure how she will react tbh
 

ExDelayed

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Aug 6, 2002
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At times she can be...sometimes I think she will be completely okay with it then others I think she'll kick me out...so its mixed, im not sure how she will react tbh
I was worried about that as well. I had my truck paid for (it was unreliable though) and she was co-signed on my car. Years later she asked what I would have done if she had kicked me out. I told her she would have had a new car because I would have packed up the truck and disappeared. :mamoru:
 

NOVAJock

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Oct 31, 2002
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hell my dad used to make me go into the woods and load the wheel barrow up with rocks for a stone wall all fucking day, i'd start it.. but i'd eventually lift up the wrong rock and find a snake, snakes or a nest of fire ants.. i would always eventually flip the fuck out and refuse to work any more, meanwhile i brothers had no problem doing it all..

ha ha
:gfight:
 

XPX

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Sep 14, 2002
12,037
Oh she knows, moms are not stupid, she is just being polite about it and subtly saying "I know and I'm ok with it"

My mom said something along the lines of "now that you are living with me you can bring home anyone you like, a girl or a boy I don't care..." I was like :ugh: ok mom....but I didn't deny it...haha
 

FiendishFreddie

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Dec 5, 2008
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She probably knows and wanted you to say "Mom, he's not just a friend. I went on a date"

I could be wrong, but it sounds to me that she's trying to be respectful of your coming out process (instead of pulling you out of the closet like my parents did).

^^this - my mum knew all along - I lived in a boarding school and during holidays I would be at home with a little pic of my bf on my bedside table and I stupidly thought she didn't know - just cos she didn't say anything didn't mean she was indenial - she was just waiting till I felt ready to tell her :)
 

TheMustafa

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May 21, 2003
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Austin, Tx
mom's always know, and then when you finally verify what they've been thinking, they spend the next 20 years trying to figure out what pivotal event they allowed to happen made you gay
 

Sam Gamgee

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mom's always know, and then when you finally verify what they've been thinking, they spend the next 20 years trying to figure out what pivotal event they allowed to happen made you gay

:rofl: so true.

My mom is convinced it was my high school girlfriend who wouldn't put out. She's like "Laura made you gay because she wouldn't have sex with you and wanted to wait until marriage". I replied: "Mom, that's WHY I was dating her"
 

TheMustafa

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May 21, 2003
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:rofl: so true.

My mom is convinced it was my high school girlfriend who wouldn't put out. She's like "Laura made you gay because she wouldn't have sex with you and wanted to wait until marriage". I replied: "Mom, that's WHY I was dating her"

my mom is convinced it is because when I was really young (like <2), she would have to take me with her to work at an std clinic and would leave me wrapped against her chest while she did pelvic exams on nasty women so i wouldnt cry :rofl:

she's tearing up as she's telling me this (yes, they will feel guilty forever), but I'm cracking up laughing:

"mom, i dont remember that at all, but did you at least put a splatter guard over me or anything? gross."
 

Pen Is Mightier

:bowrofl: @ all of this.

By the way, NB, I PM'd your mom and she now knows your gay. It's no big deal.
 

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