Some of you may remember some of my posts in here regarding my ex. Quick backstory, my ex and I have been apart for over a year now. We have a daughter who is almost three years old. I get her every Tuesday night and weekends. My ex works three nights a week (Tuesdays, Fridays, and Saturdays), about 20 hours a week max but most of the time it's less cause she gets cut before closing. She is takes care of her daughter all other days, takes her to school and her appointments. She is currently receiving child support from me, food support from the state because she's a single mother, and a disabiltiy check from the state because our daughter is considered disabled. She is an excellent mother aside from her perception of reality and attitude at times. Sunday comes around and I usually drop her off at 7pm. Sundays are my ex's time to herself since she usually doesn't get much time for herself. She calls me shortly before I'm supposed to drop our daughter off and tells me she's too drunk to take care of her and asks if she could stay with me for the night and asks me for a ride home. I say sure and I ask my dad to watch her so I can drive her home. I get to the bar and she's sitting with some coworkers (she works at this bar) and asks if I want a drink. I order something and we're all talking. Fast forward about an hour and we're drinking and talking with one of her coworkers and a manager. The manager is talking to someone else and she's talking to the coworker about his schedule. She says "I wish I got paid to be a mom." This kinda bothered me. In a very neutral tone, no attitude, I say "You do get paid to be a mom. Child support, stuff from the state..." This instantly pissed her off. She told me that I insulted her in front of her coworker and manager. I don't even think I said it loud enough for them to hear, I said it directly to her. She didn't talk to me for an hour except to throw what I said in my face. She called someone else to drive her home. The rest of the night consisted of her telling me how I broke her heart and insulted her, and she said some extremely insulting things to me that are the worst things she could possibly say. I told her that I was sorry that she took what I said as insulting but I didn't mean it that way. And if she was insulted by the fact that she gets the support she gets so she doesn't have to work 40+ hours a week like most single moms do, then that's an issue she has with herself. This argument is still going now. I thought she was just freaking out because she was drunk, but she's still mad now. She's telling me that I'm not her friend and that I don't respect her. I've asked her to explain where she gets that I don't respect her but she won't. Or maybe she can't. Was what I said really insulting? I totally understand that I shouldn't have said it in front of her coworker but I think I said it quiet enough for them to not hear. I'd love to be in her position. I'd be more that happy that I could spend all that time with my daughter. And if she has self esteem issues with where she's at in life, she has to do something about that. It isn't my fault. In for opinions.