I lurk in the Vag a lot but finally came across a situation that I felt I should post about. It amazes me how much some girls will put up with from their significant others. For example, I was at a party with some co-workers and friends of co-workers last night, we were at this girls apartment and alcohol was involved. There have been parties like this before, but usually it's just the co-workers, no friends. Any hoot there is this one girl we will call her Ruth who is a really cool person, shes cute and has an awesome personality and I love shooting the shit with her. So through these times I have learned she lives with her boyfriend and their relationship is pretty shitty. Anyway her boyfriend was at our little shindig last and as the night went on another co-worker of mine who we will call Jim, had a wee bit too much to drink and decided it would be a good idea to take a nap in the middle of the apartments living room. So Ruth's boyfriend see James sleeping on the floor and decides it would be a good idea to try to wake him by slapping him in the face. (Douche bag I know) James isn't taking his shit so drama ensues, they are threatening to fight each other, blah blah blah you all have heard this shit before. So they leave and as they are leaving Ruth's boyfriend says something along the lines of "I am glad you don't give a fuck, fuck off you fucking slut." She starts crying and after roughly ten minutes she chases after him. Later Ruth comes back in the apartment with a large cut on her hand that she got from her boyfriend hitting her. I just don't get it, why would a girl put up with this bullshit. I mean sure girls love the assholes but I mean, why would any self respecting person put up with that shit. It just blows my mind that a girl who is so chill/cool/whatever would put up with it. So I guess my question for the Vag is can you think of a situation where you would put up with something along the lines of extreme name calling and physical abuse from your SO? Also after this all went down I talked with Ruth, and told her she shouldn't put up with that and that she was worth more than that. cliffs: I was at a party with a co-worker who is a really nice cool person but her boyfriend is a douche who hits her. edit: ruth is 19 and her boyfriend is 20 I think?