Allright, here's some inspiration for you guys out there who usually end up being friends or are too clingy, or are trying to get over a gal. I'll try to keep this short. Last girlfriend I had was one I'd known for 4 years, timing was always off so we never got to gether, she got out of a bad relationship 4 months ago, so 2 weeks later we got together, things were great, but signs of issues remained, anyhow, month later, she ends up telling me she needs time alone to work out issues, I contect it saying I don't care, I knew it wouldn't be easy, you're worth it to me, but we still broke up. So I was all heart broken, kept thinking how many people i've seen get the "I just need some time alone" line and they never got back together, wah wah wah self pitty and depression, that lasted for a few days. But, then I finally realized I should take my own advice, best way to get over someone is to keep yourself occupied, in the past immersing myself in my work has worked great, so I did it again, became a working machine, and it helped a ton. Me and her would still call, she'd come hang out with me and my friends, we didn't get close or talk about anything, I just treated it as "how does she need me to be for her right now" and gave her the space she wanted. Fast foward to last night, I'm out playing pool with my friends, just out to get booze, smoke cigs, and play pool (3 year friday night tradition) when a friend of a friend shows up, it was her birthday, it had been a bad one so far, so I buy her a few drinks...and she flirts with me! (! is because that's not an often occourance) anyhow, she ends up being really cool, she asks me for my number, etc. anyhow, I"m not saying anything will come of this, just saying, work on yourself, keep yourself occupied, self pitty won't get you anything/anywhere, and when you least expect it, whamo. Edit: P.S. when I first saw this girl, I knew I liked her, so I had the idea of staying as far away from the friends zone as humanly possible...funny thing is I didn't have to, she made it very apparent early on that she was interested...even my oblivious flirt radar picked up on what she was tossing at me.