just a rant....

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  1. ForevererZero89

    ForevererZero89 New Member

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    i t sucks being lonely, and girls just don't like the way i want them too. even if it a girl is friendly towards me, i can't get it out of my head. i instantly like the person because i never get any attention from the opposite sex and that feels good no matter how fake it is.

    i'll probably have more for later when i think of it.
     
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    i feel the same dude
     
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    it sucks because i also never been with anyone. so i don't veen know how that feels, probably good though.
     
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    something happen to you lately? give an example... im not quite sure i follow.
     
  5. ForevererZero89

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    this waitress at a restaurant that my car club goes to every thursday. there is a waitress there that plays around with me and that i have come to like quiet a bit. and i really enjoy the attention, i never have gotten attention like that so it just make me thing she likes me but i dunno. im too scared to do anything either way you look at it, ive failed so much with women that its not even worth it to try anything, i already know where its going to go.

    im such a fucking idiot for feeling this way, wish i had no emotions at all.
     
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    I was in your situation 3 years ago man. Now I'm in a totally different place.

    you have to be motivated to change your life. being scared isn't going to get you anywhere. there are steps you need to take to change your life and the first is to change your perspective, especially on yourself and what you are capable of achieving.

    it takes effort, time, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, but it's worth it. trust me.
     
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    i just wish for once a girl would be interested in me.
     
  8. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    You said you have a girl you think is interested in you. :hsugh:

    How old are you?
     
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    harsh :rofl: true though. If you get trapped in that kind of mentality it's gonna be really hard to meet anyone. Build some confidence, just in general not necessarily with chicks. It's kinda weird but after I started playing guitar and got really good at it, I felt better about myself and was able to meet more women because I put out a better vibe.
     
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    My nga xap coming through :h5:
     
  11. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    people with worse dating problems have done great things.

    rejection > regret!!!!!

    good luck. :hug:

    make sure not to use your bad past experiences with women as a sympathy card with women.

    it may be tempting to do, but making yourself into the object of pity is not attractive.

    careful
     
  12. ForevererZero89

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    but im wrong, i always am. 26.
     
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    kopetzki Banned

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    now it's just sounding like you want people to feel sorry for you
     
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    not really, do what you want. i've just been holding this in for so long and just wanted to get it out before i exploded. thats why i made this thread, to vent.
     
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    you got some good advice in here dude, i used to be the same way, well i still am but i'm working on fixing it, you can either be stuck in this hole forever and not do anything about it or you can do everything in your power to get out of it and live your life. No matter what people say, stuff like this will always hold you back from fully enjoying other things in your life because that insecurity is always there.
     
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    well i want to tell her i like and whatnot but its just actually doing it thats where i get hung up. every time i try to say something my mind freezes up.
     
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    Do not tell her you like her.

    Thats not how it works.

    Just ask her if shed like to go out to dinner/grab a drink/go bowling/whatever with you. Thats it. if she says yes, take her out, show her a good time, then kiss her. If she says no, say "ok, cool. catch ya later"

    Why exactly is it that noob guys always wanna create these shit show awkward moments where they tell the girl "how they really feel"? even if the girl did like you, doing that out of the blue is going to be awkward as hell.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    It makes perfect sense:

    You know how you feel. You want to know how they feel.

    So you say how you feel, and then ask how they feel.

    The Catch-22 is that women are turned off by this, but how would you know better without experience?
     
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    XaPU!M being bad cop and good cap in the same thread :bowdown:
     
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    whats the difference between cop and cap :eek3:
     
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    You can't give up without a try. But gushing your feelings out without having any solid ground to work from is going to get you the awkwardness everyone is talking about. Take it easy... go slow.... step by step...think tactical...

    edit: Tactical not as in sneaky as in not rushing into something without knowing what your getting into. Caution probably would have been a better word here...
     
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    you mentioned a car club? Next time you're there with all the guys invite her to the next race or the tracks or something
     
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    Or you could invite her to the next car meet not as your waitress.... :bigthumb:
     
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    she always works thursdays. but maybe i can work out something like that.
     
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    Yeah i worked in restaurants for 7 years and all chick waitresses are the same. They'll talk about their boyfriends all fucking day long and then flirt heavily with the customers and once they get a fat tip they'll either say awww that guy is sooo nice, or they'll call them chumps for falling for it.
     

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