4 and a half years. We've had great times and bad ones. In the end, we both were moving different directions in our lives. She wants to be involved in politics and feels she needs to be rooted in one place. I'm looking at grad school and like the idea of trying somewhere new. Both of us didn't want to be the person to tell the other that they couldn't do what they wanted with their life. I still love her, and this hurts. It was easier than I thought it would be because she had been arriving at the same conclusions I had. Its very easy to look at the cold hard facts and make a decision; throw in emotion and it sucks.