My wife has clients that she handles. One client is a guy our age, that she got along with pretty well when she first picked up their agency. We all went to dinner tons of times, hung out, even went to Miami together on a business trip. This guy lives about 2 hours south of here. Fast forward to November, turns out my wife lies to me about going to dinner with this guy. Tells me she's going to class, when in fact she went to dinner. When I found out, and confronted her, she says she didn't want me to know because I would be jealous. I realize you don't know me, but before all of this I was never a jealous guy and I trusted her 1000000000%.. Probably to a fault. This was a Tuesday. That weekend her and I were going to go to the city where he lives (where all her family is) to see her sister and hang out with family. He was going to come out to dinner with all of us as a "friend", which was until that Tuesday what I thought him to be. I told her I wasn't going to be going, and that if I found out he was there, it was the end of the relationship. I don't put up with this garbage, know what I mean? Weekend comes.. and through a friend of mine that is a police officer, I found out that he was there with her, and some of her friends at a few bars throughout the night. I confronted her about this, and she broke down saying that he showed up even though she asked him not too, had tears and the whole show.. I believed her because of her reaction to my anger. She wasn't defensive, but rather so distraught with pain that I was so angry, so I didn't think she'd be lying to me. Does this make sense? So because of all this, I put a log on my network. Shady.. I know.. but I had to know if something was going on. Last night she logs on to myspace, and there is an email from him. Email basically goes into how happy he is that he finally could tell her his feelings for her, and how happy he is that they'll get to be together soon, etc etc. Hope to be with her soon, happy he gets to see her at work, yada yada yada. Then he goes on to say that he hopes he can see her in Vegas in February. There is a convention out there for her industry that week, and her and I have always gone in the past together. Her work pays my way, and its a REALLY nice way to vacation together with almost 0 expense to either of us. Letter ends with tons of x's and o's and all that bullsh!t. She tells him that sh'es working on airplane tickets to Vegas for the week of February 16th for her and her sister.. and that if her company doesn't pay for them to go with him, that she'll put it on her credit card and go anyway. Goes on to say she can't wait to see him again, and that's shes so happy, etc etc etc. The whole conversation makes me SICK. I don't know what to do... I really feel like someone kicked me in my gut, and punched me in my balls.. You know? We've been together since we graduated high school.. We've been through everything together.. but after all of this, I can't even look at her anymore. I was thinking perhaps I'd just wait until she goes to Vegas, and leave - leaving a vacant house for her when she gets back.. and if I do that, then I need to start planning now as its a month away. All the debt is in her name, but she's planning on bankruptcy before all of this anyway.. Only catch would be the house that is in both of our names. Neither of us can afford the house alone. We also have a car in both our names, but hoping on getting a new one possibly this week, which will be in my name only. What do you guys recommend I do first? I have a month to get my ducks in a row before acting. My paycheck goes to my own checking account. What should I do to protect myself and my funds? What steps should I be taking during this month of HELL?