the SO is really into kink. i'm open to things to at least try and if it works out then woohoo for us. here's the problem: i like my hair being pulled, but my SO can't ever do it how i like it. the only person *which is how i discovered it* that can pull it exactly how i like it is my ex bf that i lost my v card to. and it is kind of difficult to explain sorta. just more or less demonstrate but even so i don't know that i can get him to do it how i like it? what should i do?