Hey, This is my first post in here I think. I've just moved to Calgary, Canada from NZ and I'm finding that life is exactly as i expected it. I thought it would be super easy to make friends etc and all that sort of thing. I find that work is pretty good however I work with a few of your typical geek characters which is all good, and in the first few weeks of being here they invited me to go snow boarding and go to another province so that was all good. Now I feel like its hard to initate things to do with them because they are older (just) or have partners of which they spend their time with. Also I met a girl but she is 18 and i am 26, things are going pretty smoothly and I really enjoy spending time with her but her friends just see me as the older guy and can't really relate. Even though she is 18 she is quite mature for her age, but I guess her friends havent really caught up. When I was in NZ i dated two girls who were both 18, I dated one then the other for a period of years and I found the going through uni thing (for them) really tough to handle for exactly these reasons. Summary: So basically the crux is that I am finding it tough to meet people here and I want to know some ways to increase my self confidence to attract people towards me to be my friend. I don't usually have this problem I just find it wierd trying to talk to randoms in the pub / clubs etc that are already in their cliquey groups.