Weeeeelll.. how to start. Lets see. Most of the time I can last as long as I want to in bed. As in, i will have made my SO cum multiple times and she will be completely worn out from the sex so then i let myself release. But then other times, I will find myself going for 5-10 minutes and the urge to release becomes uncontrollable/unbearable and i can not go as long as i want to. I find if i have gone a few days without sex or masterbation, and then i have sex i can not control myself and go as long as i want to. How effective is the kegels exercise of strengthening the pc musles or what not? Are there any drawbacks? will doing kegels effectively put when i want to come completely under my control? What can I do to have complete control over when i ejaculate so i can pound as hard and as long as i want to? Notice: i want to do this w/o any NUMBING creams, or condems that make you last longer etc. I want full sensation and the ability to pound as hard as i want to (when appropriate ) Any tips/suggestions out there?