Most all of you have probably seen my other threads bitching about my girlfriend and how she doesnt appreciate me. Anyways, she went on a four day retreat (religious), she is religious and i am not. This meant alot to her and i tried to be supportive to her. I made her little presents, one was a bear with candy at the bottom (dots, sour patch kids, mike n ikes), and i seperated all the green and yellow because thats what she likes. Another present i gave her was everything i have kept since we started daiting and wrote her a 7 page letter on what they mean and how much i like her, stuff like that. And the thrid was an unexpected photo of her and i that was taken a really long time ago. Anyways she went on this trip, and i had a 4 day vacation with my best friend (not vacation, but like no school). And i forgot how fun it was, and how care free it was, and i forgot about my other good friend that can always make me laugh, and i forgot about a girl that i have always cared for. It was the easiest weekend of my life, absolutely 100% care free. Anyways, tonight i get a text from my girlfriend saying she wanted me to go to the closing ceremony thing, and i did. She told me it was at 6 15, and then proceded t get pissed that i was there at 6 and i was late (she made her mom call me, she couldnt even do it herself). Anyways, i get there and i sit down, she doesnt acknowldege me the whole nigh, not once. At the end of it, i get up to go see her. She brings another boy over and introduces him to her mom, not even looking at me. At this time im pissed. She told me to go wait in the hallway for her, so i did, for 20 min. She came and started to walk out with that boy, and i told her our car was the other way (i may have said it annoyed, but i dunno), and then she got mad at me for that. She then proceded to tell me that i dont care any more about us, etc. etc. etc. I told her if i didnt care i wouldnt have done the gift or came to her shit thing tonight, where she knows i hate it and knows im not religious, and knows i think its a fuckin colt. But no, that wasnt good enough for her. She told me that she was mad becuase i didnt go running to her and give her a hug, instead i sat down (because i was late). I told her that im sorry i dont live up to her standards, and left. I still like her, shes just becomming hard to handle, and forgot how easy life was when i could just kick it with my friends and not care. Sorry about the long rant, for those of you who read all of it, thanks. I just really dont know what to do.
One day in a few years you will wake up and think to yourself "wow, what a silly childish HS relationship I had with her....I can't believe I even let it go on that long." You'll think that and either be so glad that you broke it off when you did or regret that you didn't get the balls to do it sooner. If I were you, I'd want to look back and be glad. Dump that fucking immature bitch now. You will thank yourself later no doubt. All she does is bring you down. The only happiness you feel is from not being alone and knowing you have easy sex, but once you go away to college and grow up a little you will realize there's more to life than a girl who expects you to kiss the fucking ground she walks on.
seniors in highschool, i know, immature. and beer, you are a riot, i love everything you say! thanks!
Can we say...BRAT? or is stuck up bitch a 100% better. Seems she needs to have things her way, demands, yet expects more off you then what he asked for... Hate to say it but she sounds done with you. You made it clear and did things to show you care and it wasnt enough. I know when me and a my ex were dating...the realtionship was going sour...and no matter what he did for me it just didnt cut it and i didnt care. I didnt notice any of it because in my mind i was so set on it ending, but couldnt do it. Break up. You would be a 100% better off without her and her jesus loving ass...
I hope you find it in yourself to leave her before she ruins you for a girl who will appreciate how thoughtful you (say you) are
You:"I'm sorry X, but I'm no longer happy being with you." Her: but, but blah blah blah i'll change blah blah good times we've had You: "we have had good times, and its not a matter of changing, this is over, and I'd like us to make a clean break now rather than run what we DID have into the ground, bye, see you in algebra"
Be honest... I would say.." this isnt working,you're looking for something off me that i cant give..and im not happy, and clearly you arent either" Stand you're ground..and always remeber.. If it was easy to break up with someone you wouldnt do it. You will feel a 100% better...sure it will be shitty the first week or 2 but once you get out have some fun, be stress free some shit, it will all be in the past. You cant make someone happy who makes themself unhappy.
What's going down the shitter? Your already shit relationship? Tell her you aren't happy, she expects too much and you don't see it going anywhere. Move on....
If I were you, i'd avoid giving any sort of details to whatever extent thats possible, it will just give her ammunition for the inevitable 'we can fix this' speech. She probably KNOWS she's a pill and that she has a good thing going, having you under her thumb. She won't want to give that up.
Hmm, very true. Can always go the asshole route.. Bring another chick over and be like.. "hmmmyeahhhhh, this is blahblah, she's replacing you "
muahahaha i like this thread simply because i'm the bestfriend he speaks of, keep telling him this only because its what i tell him constantly, only i tell him to be an ass to her and say screw her grades, cause catering to her immaturity is no good for anyone and if she can't suck it up and grow a pair then thats her problem
Well, I was going to do my usual routine of bolding all the parts that showed that the relationship was failing...but it would have been the whole thing. You need to break up with her. Not only for the incompatibility between religious beliefs, but also because you do way too much for this girl, and she therefore expects way too much... And as for what to say..."this isn't working, we're done". Don't worry about trying to be nice, just be direct. She will be pissed regardless, because you will no longer be around to be her little toy.
time to break up. you even mentioned how much fun you had when you were w. your boy. if you were happy w. her you would have missed her at some point. she sounds like a demanding bitch.
wow, she sounds like a real catch just tell her its not working for you anymore, that you are not happy and are done. and then stop all contact with her. she wont change, no matter how much she says she will try
You are so sweet. You are such a "nice guy." Listen to the voice of experience: cut this shit out. Drop it and never do it again. I don't care that every woman in the forum is about to come in here and tell you how much they love gestures like this. Expressing your feelings to a woman in this manner is a huge no-no. Guaranteed to kill any interest she has for you. Never do this again. Totally and completely unacceptable behavior on her part. You were there 15 minutes early, "nice guy." And she proceeds to shit all over you because she knows she can. You are her plaything. Look, you can't accept this from her and respect yourself. When you let her do this, YOU ARE DISRESPECTING YOURSELF. Why should anyone respect you when you don't respect yourself. When she got mad, you should have left without explanation. She doesn't deserve your time and attention if this is how she chooses to act. Wow. Totally and completely emasculating. How can you live with yourself? Had you left earlier like you should have, you wouldn't have been there to suffer this kind of humiliation. What is wrong with you that you actually care for somehow who treats you so poorly? This is almost like battered-woman's syndrome in reverse. She dishes out the psychological abuse and you can't wait to take it. Did your balls finally drop? Why are you following this cunt's directions after her horrible treatment of you? Dude, this chick doesn't care about you AT ALL. She is using her as her toy and her lapdog because you have shown in the past that you will take it. What do you think the other guy is thinking about you during this? Why in the hell are you explaining yourself to her? Can't you see how easily she is manipulating you? She is the one who has just shown how much she DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU. And now she's got you so twisted that you are trying to explain to her that you care about her! Unbelievable. What a fucking cunt. Why can't you call her out on her horrible treatment of you? Passive-aggressive much? Holy shit. Look, I'm going give it to you straight: you are not a man, and you are not ready for a relationship. Most of this isn't even her fault. Other people treat you the way you communicate to them to treat you. You've got to take a hard look at yourself and figure out who you truly are and figure out what you have to do to grow up and be a man. You can't be having relationships. You are going to continue to repeat this cycle until YOU CHANGE and start RESPECTING YOURSELF and DEMAND THAT OTHERS RESPECT YOU. Hard to handle? You could NEVER handle this chick. She is playing you like a fiddle bro. What is there to like about this cunt? You follow her instructions like an idiot and she treats you like you are the dirt beneath her feet. WAKE THE FUCK UP LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF FIGURE OUT HOW TO GROW UP AND BE A MAN REALIZE THAT BEING ALONE IS PREFERABLE TO BEING TREATED LIKE DIRT BY A WORTHLESS CUNT
And I don't want to hear one fucking "but" from you about this chick. I don't know her and I don't know you. But everything I see about the situation is 100% correct and I swear to God if you defend her in any way I'll never try to help you again.
@ Yail But I'm going to go ahead agree with him wholeheartedly and say that that is all the advice you ever need right there. Grow a pair and put this girl in her place and move on with your life.
And he's right, don't bother defending the girl to us. Don't waste your time. Cause nothing you say, none of her "good qualities" or the "I know she's a bitch,but she can be..." excuses are going to fly with us, so don't even bother wasting your time typing them up. What? ZIP IT. No. Don't type that. Just read Yail's post, respect yourself, and send this girl packing. But...but?? Bu...bullshit. I am Dr. Evil throwing a whole bag of "shush" in your direction. Your next post needs to be about how you called her up, told her to go fuck herself sideways, and how you hope she drives herself into a bridge abutment or something.
Doesn't anyone else see that she is being a cunt to the TS because he's a nice guy (too nice) and she has lost any and all attraction for him but she doesn't have the strength to break up with him so she is being a cunt in hopes that he breaks up with her? Anyways, listen to Yail, grow a back bone, be a man and stand up for yourself. Either stop being a wussy and doing all the wussy things you said you did for her, or dump her and move on with your life.