Liking someone out of your league

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  1. Anticipate

    Anticipate New Member

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    Let's say that you are of average intelligence, have average type of low level jobs. But you are only attracted to ivy league, intellectual types with really good jobs, who you can't carry on a conversation with for the life of you.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You lack so much confidence it's scary. You know that right?
     
  3. Anticipate

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    What is this- Jeopardy? ;)
     
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    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    They are only out of your league if you allow them to be. My boyfriend has said that he thought I was out of his league. However, he took a chance and we have been together 3.5 years next month. Not saying my boyfriend is of low status, however, certain things made him think that about me.
     
  5. Chip Chipperson

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    :rofl:
     
  6. MattThom01

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    There's no magic answer to your supposed question. There is nothing we can say that will just make all your insecurity go away and be replaced with confidence.

    What do you do if you like someone who you think is "out of your league"? Well, ask yourself "what would I do if I thought this person was in my league?" There's your answer. If you like someone, and as far as you know it would not be inappropriate to pursue them, go out and pursue them!
     
  7. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    If you think you aren't intelligent enough then do something about it. Get an education so you can get a better job or learn more things on your own.
     
  8. HuskiRuski

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    if the person you're going after isn't "out of your league," then they aren't worth going after. you're not looking for someone that's ok, you're looking for the best possible.
     
  9. No one is out of my league, keep telling yourself that, sooner or later it will sink in.
     
  10. Anticipate

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    What about the prince of England? You think that he doesn't think I'm out of his league?
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Who gives a shit what he thinks. The point is you need to have confidence in yourself and believe you are in the same league. The other person will notice this confidence and not think down of you.
     
  12. Chip Chipperson

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    wait, you're a CHICK? you better be goodlooking or learn to become so. that's the first thing guys judge
     
  13. nish81

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    here I thought you didn't post anything useful :eek4:
     
  14. MattThom01

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    Even if she can adjust her appearance, she is still going to have to work on her confidence/clinginess/therapy issues.

    Do a search for some of her previous posts.
     
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    (Please swap the role of the male and female and replace her with him and maybe bitch to bastard):mamoru:

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  16. Falconer

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    Does that only happen in Montreal or something?
     
  17. Anticipate

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    Will you ever leave me and my threads alone, or are you going to continue plaguing every thread of mine with your asshole remarks?
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Of everyone in these forums I think MattThom is one of the most sane and level-headed. It doesn't sound like he's trying to attack you. I've read your threads too and they always make me cringe because you are so insecure yet never doing anything to better your life/make yourself feel good about yourself. You just keep making threads like these that make us kind of feel bad for you really. Sorry if the truth hurts.
     
  19. MattThom01

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    This is the first thread of yours I've seen in months...I don't think I'm plaguing anything.

    Chill out.

    Seriously.
     
  20. BradUF

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    So, you work a low level job making almost no money and you are trying to get with an educated guy that is a engineer or doctor. I highly doubt you could get with him because you have nothing in common at all. The stuff you both like to do in your free time will greatly differ mostly due to what he can afford to do and what you can't afford to do.

    Unless, you are just really hot and the guy is willing to put up with someone that he does not relate to just to be with a trophy.
     
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    That's a good point. It depends on what we're talking about here. I originally iterpreted "out of my league" as meaning "he or she is just way too hot/popular for me!" I really don't know that there is such a true thing as that. You really having nothing to lose by approaching someone, instead of holding yourself back based on their appearance.

    Now, having different interests and backgrounds...that is a reality. In most respects, I think people would be better off going after people with common interests, otherwise you aren't going to click, or you will find the person boring, etc.
     
  22. BradUF

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    Well once out of school "being cool" is not the same thing but in a way it is still very much there. It is is replaced by social class and social class is attained by how much money you have. That is attained in your early years by education attainment. Ex : Finished high school and no more will get you a crappy job, which in turn will make crappy money, making you Working Class or even worse Lower class. Thus, making you a loser. Middle class is of course avarge and Rich can be consider the coolest.

    So you can look at it this way, Mango is Working class... trying to get with a Cool dude. What does she have to offer to this guy? I am not trying to offend anyone but I am just trying to show that social class is still very important. I know you all are going to say that I see a hot ass girl dating a poor as dude all the time and of course there are exceptions to dating outside of your class but they are rare. Mostly because what class you are decides in what you like to do and who you are around most of the day. A Doctor is not going to be around that many working class people because he spends all day around middle class and up. Hence he is more likely to hook up with middle class and up.
     
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  23. Anticipate

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    Huh? Who said that a college degree gets you a better job than a h.s. diploma? (sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't).
    Also, I believe that social status is related to other things besides money. Education being one of them. Someone with a high school diploma can make more money than someone with a PhD, but the PhD will be higher social status.
     
  24. BradUF

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    It is very rare that someone with little education is going to make more then someone with a BA or Masters... a BA in engineering starts at 80k depending on what job.
    I suppose I will let you have your dreams of working a dead end job and getting with a doctor to take care of you.
     
  25. BradUF

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    Rare and I said there are exceptions to the rule but there are way more people who end up working a dead end job.
     

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