I've learned a lot of things about myself in the last few weeks. I get really anxious when I'm with a girl I desire. I'm not talking about super attractive or girls I think I can sleep with, women that I look at and know instantly that she's cool, and I want to be around her right now, and probably tomorrow. I can only assume by this is triggered by some cue which I interpret as favorable qualities (sexy, femininity, composure, and straight dark hair), and it makes me flip. I triggers something that makes my heart pound, and I short circuit into a mechanism where I want to leave the situation. When I look back on those incidents, I realize that I should just relax, slow my speech, and tell the woman what I want to tell her. "You seem cool, lets go do XYZ this week. Give me your #." I compensate by leaving the situation, or freaking out enough that its a self-fullfilling prophecy, like "there is no way this woman really wants anything to do with me, she's just sitting here, listening to my shit, hoping I'll leave but she's just like me, polite and caring, so she doesn't want to crush me. She won't answer when I call anyway." Can anyone lend some advice on this? I can change behavior, but I can't seem to change over-powering, self-destructive though.