Hey everyone.. Warning in advance... longggg Got a few questions. Does anyone have any experience dealing with long distance relationships? Particularly ones where your S/O will be busier than hell for the duration of their stay? Background: Been with my (amazing) girlfriend for 3 years. She's been living with me for the last 2. She's going to med school in August and I won't be moving down there (just yet). I recently got a great job where we live, about 2.5 hours away from where she's going. We plan to see each other on alternating weekends (or whatever our schedules allow), and I got her to agree to attempting to allocate at LEAST an hour per day to actually have a conversation. While I know that certain times will come where that won't be possible, I thought it was a reasonable commitment level. She commissioned into the Air Force to pay for it -- the health professionals scholarship, where they pay for everything for the time you're in school, and then your repayment is a 1-to-1 deal at the end (1 year service for 1 year in school). It's a great deal, and I'm really proud of her for her accomplishments, goals, and endeavours. Accompanied with that, though, are a lot of commitments that neither of us will have any control over. She was at COT (Commissioned Officer Training) for the last 4 weeks, and in VERY limited contact. I didn't take it very well. Apparently I've become rather co-dependent and while I'm used to people being around all the time, when all of that was gone (my family moved back up north, no friends in the area anymore -- everyone left at exactly the same time), I flipped out. I spent just about every night in an emotional wreck -- I wasn't sleeping, and I was drinking far too much. Anyway...my point is, I don't want to be this person. Ordinarly, I'm a very STRONG individual. But I know that in the future, I'm going to feel neglected, slighted, and the military is going to take her to places that are going to be away from me for as-of-yet undetermined periods of time. I attended her graduation ceremony, and they had an info session that stated they generally won't be gone for longer than a 4 month TDY. Even still, 4 months worth of the last 30 days...I don't know how I'm going to be able to handle it. I'm really second guessing my ability to deal with life at this point. I think part of it stems from my reluctance in general to enter into a LD relationship. I had one before I met this girl, and it went horribly. She cheated on me, and our relationship was a roller coaster of shit. At any rate, I don't want the same scenario repeated, but more than that, it's hard for me to just accept not being around my girlfriend for that long. Our relationship hasn't been the most solid. We've had our problems, but I believe we've moved past a lot of the other outstanding issues that were preventing me from making a real commitment to her. I'm ready to move forward...I just need some help pushing past this last hesitation and regaining my strength. I want to be a rock for her in the future, to know that she can count on me to be strong when she's not around, and in any situation. I trust her, I believe in her, and I want to see her succeed, free of any emotional shit I may bring to the table. She doesn't need to be dealing with the stresses of school and having to put up with me at the same time. I want to be able to look back upon the next 10 years and say... wow, it sucked, but we made it through. And look where we are now. I don't want to be this pussy that I was while she was gone. It's not ME. I'm not ruled by my emotions, damn it. I'm far more logical than this. Any suggestions? Are there people in LD relationships here? Are there any military people on here? If so, how do you deal with your spouse's absense/TDYs and deployments? I have no problems when we're married packing up and moving with her, and I don't have any problem with her career choice (in fact, I'm looking forward to her being able to carry her share of the finances finally ). It's the time away that bothers me, because I enjoy spending every possible minute with her.