I don’t know what to do. I just need to write this down and let go of some shit. Ok. I went to the UK for a few months last year from Australia. It was to scope out a possible move over there as well as to have a much needed holiday. While I was there I met a great girl, and had a blast with her. But unlike the other random hookups I had over there we both actually felt like there was a connection. Since I arrived back in Australia we’ve talked quite a bit and are in a quasi LDR. I’m 23 and work in property development/urban design. She’s 25 and is a student doing her MA in English. Everything was going great until just recently, when a couple of things happened. 1) economic collapse. Suddenly my proposals for work over there dried up quicker than a puddle in death valley. 2) Work offered me a substantial pay rise if I decide to stay with them (close to 50%) Now, I really enjoy my work, not just for the money but because I enjoy what I do. She feels somewhat intimidated (her words) by what I do as she is uncertain of what she wants to do. She feels she doesn’t “measure up” to what I want/need in a partner – she likes me blah blah blah but doesn’t want me to regret anything. I mentioned that pay rise in passing because she knows all about my struggles at work but I honestly didn’t expect the reaction I got – that I should stay and forget about her. I’m not moving over to be with her alone – I’m moving over because it’s something I’ve wanted to do for a while. But if I can’t find a job it’s just going to put unnecessary strain on things and won’t make me happy. I don’t quite know where I am going with this, but just want to bounce some ideas around. My current thinking is if I can’t get work, then I’m going to call the whole thing off and she’ll come out for a holiday, something she has been thinking about. We can reconsider our options then and see what happens. If I can get a job then I’ll probably head over and once again see what happens. Sorry for the ramble, but I’m confused as hell. I mean, I really like her, but I don’t know whether to read this as a minor freak out or a get out of my life kind of thing. The thing that really fucking sucks is that off all the girls I’ve dated/lived with this felt different from the start. Felt I could open up to her more and all that shit. Know it sounds soppy and clichéd and all that, but it’s the truth.