with another guy (Where i come from anywhere from a kiss to a lay is "hooking up") He told her how attracted he was to her and then he kissed her I think it's pretty cool that she can hook up with guys and still it doesn't change anything for me. At the same time it's also WEIRD. Back in the day (i.e., several months ago )? There's NO WAY I would have been capable of feeling secure about a girl's interest in me if even she expressed attraction to another guy... let alone let a guy kiss her. Rationally I understood the concept: someone can enjoy themselves with other people in your absence and STILL feel the same way towards you when you show up in their doorway. But I didn't believe it emotionally. If you think about it, it's actually weird that it took me so long to get here. It's also pretty funny... I find myself feeling BAD for my lover because she declined to kiss him back because the guy who kissed her was not enjoyable. I don't want to deny her any of her fun, even by accident. Sadly though she is currently "left cold" when hooking up with another man... I think this is some kind of side effect of her being in love with me. I think that because it is the same for me.. it's been kind of a problem for me in terms of pick-up, because I do super-super-direct game, and while I CAN and DO flirt with people, it is JUST that - something to do. Emotionally, it leaves me cold, cuz I just want the girl I'm in love with to be there instead of the girl I'm flirting with. (On balance, I don't mind sacrificing game for the way being in love makes me feel. After all falling in love is one of the goals of game in the first place.) Anyways I just thought I'd update the vag on my backwards ways!!