Oh, where to start? I was 'stuck' in a really bad relationship for a few years. I 'escaped' from said relationship in Oct 2005 and have pretty much been a hermit/monk since then. A lot of time has passed, and a lot of healing has occured and I find myself wanting to meet people again. So I've met someone online who I just started chatting with. I find him very attractive, and I seem to be his type. But what makes it strange is that he's in an open relationship that is 8 years old. It seems that boy is a trucker and on the road 6 days each week so friend gotsta get some. Really I'm ok with this, actually, I'm one of the most open-minded people you will meet. But now there are two issues for me: 1) I am an honorary virgin now (no sex 2.5+ years). I used to be something of a mover and a shaker but it has been a while for me and I find myself a bit nervous about going through with this. I truly have no explanation for this because before I was very confident in this area. One part of me wants to say "Oh by the way, you're the first person I have slept with in more than 2 years", and the other part thinks "Who cares? You've done this before and it's no big deal". Not sure how to proceed in this area. 2) I am a bit worried about becoming attached to this guy. Obviously that won't work. The truth is that I found myself liking the guy quite a while before I found out that he's in a relationship. It's not in his profile or anything, I only found out about his BF late last night when we happened to exchange MySpace profiles. As I said earlier, I'm really ok with that situation, but often I tend to like people more than I should. Somehow I think that I am really building all of this up in my mind and setting myself up for trouble later. I feel that I should just go with the flow and not worry about it. Why am I making such a big deal about something that I used to do quite often? Is this sort of a normal experience for someone who is re-entering the dating world after both relationship trauma and time passed? I look forward to your thoughts and I'll keep you posted if anything happens (No, I won't be giving details about sex LOL, just the situation in general).