I always seem to pick up mixed signals, so I don't know if it's just my perception, if I'm causing them by the way I act, or what, I think I may just be bad at reading people? My previous GF old me that she didn't know if our first date was a date or what... so I think I must be partly to blame. My present situation, this girl just out of the blue started chatting me up, we hadn't exchanged barely a hi until a few days ago. She invited me out w/ her friends but I was working so I declined, she got all sheepish and was like 'good excuse', so I figured there was some interest from her end. I told her some other time, her response was yeah maybe we can do something this week, so I told her I would talk with her the next day when I knew what I was doing. So next day I asked what her plans were and she started rattling off a list of everything she was doing - so at that point I'm thinking not worth the time, so I say 'ah you're busy' and she cuts me off and is like no, I just have to think about what I'm doing, she invites me to hang w/ her friends at work later in the week, but I've got plans then so I offer to give her my #, thinking if she's interestd she will call me at some point, she cuts me off and is like no, let me give you mine. So a few days later (today) I call her and ask if she has plans such and such a time, she says she's doing stuff that day but I can come hang out w/ her friends that night (again w/ the friends thing). So I'm confused why I am picking up mixed signals. I think that I probably am giving them out myself? I think at this point she isnt interested or she wouldn't have invited me out w/ her friends 3 times now, but I know some people prefer that kind of arrangement when meeting someone new. I would like to know how I could better have gauged the direction things were going, and how I can gauge how things are going in the future. As it stands I plan on calling her a few days from now when I get off work and asking her to meet up for dinner, and if she says no, then suggesting that maybe it would be better if she gives me a call when she isn't so busy so we can do something together. I did this before and she gave me her # instead which I really don't understand b/c if she is not interested, then why would she jump out like that? Also, is there maybe a better way of turning down an invite to come hang out w/ her friends and directing things to more of a one on one ? I havn't actually said 'no I'm not interested in hanging out with your friends, but if you would like to spend some time with me I would like that'. Maybe this should have been said from the git go, but how can I gauge if this is a 'friend' thing or if she just doesn't feel compfortable one on one?