cliffs at bottom. my ex and i slept together (made thread about prego scare earlier) and anyways, she told her bf and broke up with him. the kid flipped out (rightfully so) and started yelling at her. the next day he told her he wanted her back anyways, she left the country for vacation with her family and we usually talk online every day or every other day. she is ALWAYS telling me how much she misses me and loves me.... she always tells me she misses the sound of my voice and all this other shit. i honestly still love this girl, but she is still keeping relations with the kid she cheated on. he's made it clear that he wants to get back together and not just be friends. what REALLY pisses me off, is i recently found out the truth behind our breakup (about 2 or 3 months ago). 1 weekend i went down to visit her and told her she was being too clingy and that i was thinking about breaking up (she called me every night for 3 hours at a time and would NOT fuck off even when i told her i had 3 tests to study for. if i called her when she was watching fuckin TV with the girls, i'd leave her alone. she would literally cry on the phone if i said i couldn't talk). Anyways, i didn't tell her that because i WANTED to break up, i told her because it was a problem i was experiencing with our relationship and i wanted to work through it with her. apparently this really hurt her. she confided in this dickhead she knew wanted to go out with her and he started twisting everything around to make me look like a bad guy and to give a negative image of our relationship. he did this for about a week and a half (without my knowledge.. she never told me anything was wrong) and then she broke up with me because she wanted to "date other people and not be tied down". the next day she was with that other kid. yeah, the same kid she cheated on (all summer long, mind you) with me. (she had been dating him for about 2-3 weeks when we started seeing each other over the summer) it pisses me off that our 15 month relationship went to shit because: 1- she wouldn't talk to me about what was bothering her 2- that fuckin snake used her naiveness to turn her against me i know some of you are already going to post and say she banged him behind my back. trust me, i looked through all her msgs (he fuckin sent 5 per day) and nothing says anything about cheating. it's just alot of her telling him about my relationship with her and alot of him twisting shit around to make her look like a princess and me like a dick. i also looked at the more recent messages now that they broke up and she does not appear to be flirting with him at all even though he keeps hitting on her... but as i said earlier, she constantly tells me she loves me and misses me (and there's plenty of flirting... sexual innuendos.. etc) as much as i love her, i am SERIOUSLY considering the option of just cutting her out of my life. at this point my relationship with her is bringing more hurt and misery into my life than happyness. she flirts with me and says she loves me and all this shit, but she doesn't want a relationship. does that make any fucking sense? i mean if she is serious about just wanting to be friends with me, she wouldn't constantly tell me she loves me and misses me... or talk about other sexual shit. i want things to work out between me and her (friends, fuck buddies, or otherwise) but i already know in my heart that as long as she is around that other guy, i can never trust her and it is just going to keep me hurting for nothing. why do you guys think that kid would want her back after she told him she cheated? they had only been dating for a few weeks at that point and she hadn't slept with him yet... do you think i should just try to chill out and stop caring and just see how things work out when we go back to college? or should i take a more vengeful route? i know i can get along fine without her. i DONT need her in my life. i just want to try to work things out so i can have her in my life because i love her. CLIFFS: My ex cheated on her bf with me and tells him. they break up and the next day he wants her back. she doesn't take him back and goes on vacation out of the country with her family. we talk online alot and she constantly tells me she loves me and misses me. she always flirts with me as well but she said she didn't want a relationship with me. she is still keeping relations with the kid she cheated on even though he made it clear he wants to get back together and not just be friends. i check her msgs and find out that HE is the main reason we broke up a few months ago (after dating 15 months). she and i had some problems, she confided in him, and he twisted it all around and used it against me to get her to break up. he keeps flirting on her facebook shit knowing full well that i'd see it. her recent msgs don't show any signs of flirting with him however (private msgs too). i still love her but can't trust her if she is going to be around that guy. she trusts him too much and he's a fuckin snake (from my point of view). why does he want her back after she cheated? should i chill out and stop letting shit bother me and wait to see how things work out or should i be more vengeful..?