This is long so bear with me. Ok, so the girlfriend and I broke up last weekend after 2yrs and 8 months. Honestly, this relationship had almost everything going for it(or so I thought?). We got along absolutely great....our personalities were definitely our best trait. We loved one another for everything that we were and that we weren't. We were always great at fixing any issues that came up and generally didn't have very many arguments considering the length of the relationship. When we did, we would always proceed in a mature manner and eventually come to a conlcusion that we both agreed on. I was not a bitch of a guy that would roll over when she would get mad or act inappropriately(both VERY rare) and I always stood up for what I thought was right. Most of our relationship(70% of it) has been long distance to the tune of ~2hrs distance. When we were both at college, we were absolutely amazing and I think had 1 argument over 1yr(the past year I graduated and have been working). I am 25 and she is 22 and we would routinely hang out every weekend. The issues that began to arise would be closeness. Being that we were long distance, many times either one, or both of us, would feel distant from one another even when we got together. We both still loved each other very much and all it took was a great weekend to get the feeling back or just some quality time, which we both loved and did to keep things in check. However, every 3~5 months or so, it would kinda come to a head and we would need to have a talk. Realize that we are a couple that feeds off of one another and when one party would doubt something, the other would doubt what that party said, and then the original party would doubt that creating a spiraling affect. This had happened 2~3 times prior to the spiral that ended us this past weekend, which was a discussion of not feeling close as well. In looking back, it seems like we were both afraid of it ending and scared and we just couldn't recover(didn't help that the discussion was taking place at 1am in the morning). A little background on her. She has progressively become overcome with stress and anxiety. She is a senior and will be graduating this semester from college. She was planning on moving back to Atl to do her internship and getting a job and that still stands(I live in Atl), but she is crazy stressed about it(she is also pursuing leads in LA and NY since she is a Radio/Television/Film major). She would randomly have different mood swings....nothing enormous, but enough to where you could visually tell a difference in her actions. She is a very emotional girl and doesn't have high self asteem at all and absolutely hates her body(she is actually a very beautiful girl that would shock the hell out of everyone if they knew that). She has a problem making decisions when the choices aren't perfectly clear. She cannot figure out how she feels and routinely say she is "so messed up in the head." She has taken this opportunity to seek some professional help at her college(someone to talk to) because she wants to fix her issues with everything, not just us. A little background on me. I fairly emotional for a guy, but always felt good that I had the ability to see a situation from a neutral standpoint and know what the right decision was, regardless of how I felt(making that decision is tough though). Her and I come from 2 different social circles, but clicked PERFECTLY via personality. We both have pretty different interests, but we both also like our own time, so we would do movies and dinners together some weekends and some weekends, would only hang out for a night or day and do our own thing. I continued to maintain a life with my friends as I would not let myself become submersed by my relationship, but I always catered most of my time to her than my friends. She, however, kinda lost herself in me(which she has told me since our split). She still had her friends, but she didn't hang out with them very much as they went to different colleges. She has said she sort of lost her idenity. So, coming full circle she has said numerous times that she made a mistake, but she is not ready to get back together. I completely respect that, because as we all know, everyone feels they made a mistake at first and getting back together because of emotion is not the right thing to do. She says she just wants to call this "a break". I ask her if she still loves me and she says a part of her does, but another part of her fell out of love with me after every "distance" argument we had because they were so straining on the relationship and so hard on both of us emotionally. <- This is my biggest red flag. She also told me she could never let those arguments go, even ones from years ago. They would always float around in the back of her head. She says that she wants to talk with someone and try to get her shit in line before attempting something again, but says she eventually does want to get back together with me(she said this on her own with no proding from me). She says she feels SO horrible for hurting me. I personally wonder if she would be trying to get back with me because she feels so bad for doing so and I routinely tell her that is NOT the right thing to do. She needs to be clear with how she feels about me. I also told her I cannot be her emotional crutch anymore(she liked to vent to me and said she lost her boyfriend and her bestfriend) and that we don't need to talk. This upsets her a lot, but I WILL NOT be used. Also, all of her friends have been asking her why she broke it off when they knew we were so good together and that our "arguments" were normal for a distance relationship. I think this has also been playing into her second guessing herself. So, through all of this, I think she just fell out of love with me. I can't really reason why we ended and I sure can't accurately portray our relationship with words because I can't type to save my life. All I know is we were always honest and truthful and if I could have ever subjectively judged a relationship for a proper foundation with good values, this would have been it. The break shocked the hell out of her and me. There was SOOOO much we did well that the bad was completely overshadowed, but I guess she could never let go of the bad. As you can see, all of this is the usual pattern of flip flopping back and forth after a relationship ends that 99% of the time ends with more hurting and wasted time. I know the right decision, but that 1% of hope sure as hell can be hard to squash given the circumstances. Another thing is she was an absolute MESS after the break up. She had no appetite and cried for ~3 days straight according to her mom. I too have been having trouble eating, but its been coming around here lately. I didn't know if that was because of so much changing in our lives because of this or if it was because we loved each other. Any thought and opinions are welcome right now if you made it this far.