Hey all, I've been talking to my sister lately and she's been giving me inside information that only I'm allowed to know. My brother-in-law has CF, diabetes, and asthma. He's 32 years old. He's on home oxygen. His doctors told him today that his illness isn't getting any better. He is, however, at the top of the national list for lung transplants. He says that hopefully he'll have the transplant within the year. After talking with my sister about him, she's saying that it's doubtful that he be here that long. Even if his body accepts the new lungs, his 'level of life', as she puts it, won't be the same and his life will probably be extended by only a few years. My sister and brother-in-law have a 5-yr-old daughter that stays at my house with my Mom and Dad (Maw Maw and Pop, as she says), so that she doesn't see his deteroring health. I've overheard him say that he's going to only see her when he's healthy, that way when she's old enough to remember him, she'll remember him as a healthy Daddy. My sister is looking to me as a rock, but now I'm starting to feel the effects of his slow health problems. She's been doing extensive research on well-known CF boards and what's she's reading isn't looking good. I don't know how to be the person she can fall on for her feelings, she's actually considered having me and my g/f, soon to be fiancee, to move in her basement and assist with the day-to-day things while my parents help with raising my 5-yr-old niece. Any advice would be appreciated. NeonImpact: Not a word to any of the family. I don't know where else to vent. Sorry, but Neon had been my best friend in real life for most of my life, so I don't want him to tell anyone how concerned I am. I feel I can confine in OT.