Okay I'm not sure but new here...I'm getting the impression there is quite a younger crowd here than myself at 44 but any comments on this is greatly appreciated... I was married 16 years...seperated 3 before finally divorcing & 18 months after the divorce is finalized my ex is remarrying this New Year's Eve with all the bells & whistles!!! Fiance' is the woman I thought all along he had feelings for & had been mutual...he idn't admit to dating her until Feb & got engaged in Aug. I'm having a really hard time with this...I thought I was over him...I've been dating & going out with girlfriends & generally having fun but the fact that this woman is who he chooses & she will be my daughters' stepmom as well as sharing their dad with her 3 daughters is making me sick literally I could barf...I hate her...I hate him...I hate that this is happening.... Has anyone been thru this...how'd you do it???