What do you do when someone you love is seriously messing up their life? My 14 year old niece started on a wrong path about 6 months ago. Her parents are split up, so if her dad says she can't do something, she goes & stays with her mom (who lets her do anything) until her mom says something spiteful and she goes back to her dad. So, she's getting next to no discipline. She started failing in school and getting in with the wrong crowd. She started drinking and doing drugs. Her dad sent her to a counsellor and if they say something too tough, she just up & leaves. Because of her living situation, she doesn't have to confront anything and if she doesn't like the situation, she leaves. So, recently, her boyfriend of several months got put in jail for dealing meth. She immediately jumped to a 2nd boyfriend and insisted she was "in love". This love lasted a month until she moved onto her most recent boyfriend. Of course, she's totally in love with him. Then, last weekend, she tells our family she's 7 weeks pregnant. Again, she is 14 years old. She is also still doing drugs & drinking. Her mom knew she was having sex at 14 and didn't say a word against it. Her parents went to a counselling session w/her and her dad asked her to explain to him how can this be a good thing for her life? She couldn't answer this question, so again, she up & left the session. I wish I could say I'm surprised. I had recently said I thought she would be dropped out & pregnant in 2 years. I was unhappy to be right. But, what can I do? I'm not her parent. I am someone she loves & looks up to, but I am disappointed and pissed at her for treating herself so poorly. I love her, and she is ruining her life.