i don't really have a diverse range of female friends, so i thought i'd put this out there and see what the ladies thought. any help would be appreciated.. also i get a lot out of this forum just reading, so please feel free to fill this thread with your own scenarios too. context matters a lot, so take some effort to be concise in your writing if you do want help. ===== question 3: would a woman feel more comfortable joking about love/romance with someone they were interested in (over someone they weren't interested in)? or is it just to do with how comfortable she is with the person in general? for example, i send an SMS about her breaking my heart all the time, jokingly. i figure she might not reply either because: (a) she wouldn't want me to read too much into her reply, even if she makes it jokingly, or (b) she's shy, has feelings for me, and is flabbergasted at how i can joke about such things. which one is more likely, in general? (note that i mentioned love/romance, not sex.) ===== question 2: girl has a friend i can't stand (and knows i can't stand him) and says talking to him is like talking to a girl, that the guy might be gay, etc. she does get quite giddy around this guy, a mood i could never get out of her. - is she trying to make me jealous of how close the guy is to her, or less jealous by calling him a fag? - can i take this as an indication of interest in the guy? - can i take this as an indication of interest in me? ===== question 1: girl mentions on Valentine's day that she feels like she's just wasting time in this city, and would probably go back to her hometown if she wasn't tied down to a job. - she broke up with her bf 9 months ago; i was 'the' guy at her graduation that met her family. - by mentioning this on Valentine's day, i'm thinking she was giving me a hint that i was "wasting her time" and i should've made a move long ago (had no intention to.. platonic all along). am i correct?