dontheox
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Hello All!,
I have not posted on here for a year at least, but I always get the best advice on these forums.
This woman I went to high school with used to be a big girl in school and I was her cousins friend so I took up for her when she got picked on, so there is a history there 10 years pass she lost all off her weight. I get reacquainted with her and find out we both are divorced I am going through one she has been divorced for about two years. She has been lending emotional support to help me through my divorce so we have been talking a lot.
Well after a few meet ups I did not hear from here in almost a month so I figured she was not interested in me. Well last Saturday she calls me wanting to know if I wanted to hang out with me but was in a town an hour away at the time visiting family, so she had to drive an hour out of her way to come and see me. When she shows up she is wearing a a very nice dress that shows off most of her goodies and tells me matter of factually that she had her make up done at some place. We have a very nice afternoon and evening together she leaves nothing happened at all not even a kiss.
Now she did not go or was going to any formal function she was just visiting family and every other time she came to see me she was just wearing a t-shirt and blue jeans when I asked her why she was all dressed up she replied "I always dress nice like this."
Anytime I have mentioned us dating she always replied "We'll see." which to me was a no so I just started looking else where
So I am either dealing with a Dark Lord of the Sith or a completely clueless woman who dose not understand what it means to show up at a guys door wearing a sexy dress.
My theories are she just wants attention but no commitment, or she is clueless (I don't think so but maybe) or she knows that my divorce will be final in about ten days and is just hung up on that and wanted to keep me interested until it is final. Or she got stood up by another guy and I was her fall back guy. I am no stranger to the dating world and I know there is a game that has to be played, but I do not think she is into the usual dating game criteria.
Anyways that's the story any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated as long as they are productive ones. Thank you in advance.
Don
I have not posted on here for a year at least, but I always get the best advice on these forums.
This woman I went to high school with used to be a big girl in school and I was her cousins friend so I took up for her when she got picked on, so there is a history there 10 years pass she lost all off her weight. I get reacquainted with her and find out we both are divorced I am going through one she has been divorced for about two years. She has been lending emotional support to help me through my divorce so we have been talking a lot.
Well after a few meet ups I did not hear from here in almost a month so I figured she was not interested in me. Well last Saturday she calls me wanting to know if I wanted to hang out with me but was in a town an hour away at the time visiting family, so she had to drive an hour out of her way to come and see me. When she shows up she is wearing a a very nice dress that shows off most of her goodies and tells me matter of factually that she had her make up done at some place. We have a very nice afternoon and evening together she leaves nothing happened at all not even a kiss.
Now she did not go or was going to any formal function she was just visiting family and every other time she came to see me she was just wearing a t-shirt and blue jeans when I asked her why she was all dressed up she replied "I always dress nice like this."
Anytime I have mentioned us dating she always replied "We'll see." which to me was a no so I just started looking else where
So I am either dealing with a Dark Lord of the Sith or a completely clueless woman who dose not understand what it means to show up at a guys door wearing a sexy dress.
My theories are she just wants attention but no commitment, or she is clueless (I don't think so but maybe) or she knows that my divorce will be final in about ten days and is just hung up on that and wanted to keep me interested until it is final. Or she got stood up by another guy and I was her fall back guy. I am no stranger to the dating world and I know there is a game that has to be played, but I do not think she is into the usual dating game criteria.
Anyways that's the story any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated as long as they are productive ones. Thank you in advance.
Don
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No but seriously you should trademark that reply... 
It seems she's just not ready for a commitment. Something about you holds her back. Not sure if it's you, the other men she's interested in or what, but for your sake I'd find out and find out fast because I wouldn't waste much more time on her if it's ultimately going nowhere.
