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  1. boxen

    boxen New Member

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    Hey Vag!

    So I need some advice regarding a situation that I'm not directly involved in. My brother and I have never really gotten along, he's kind of the black sheep of the family. But for the past 3 or 4 years, his personality has really been improving. His power trip has gone away, he's started being NICE, compassionate, helpful.... basically a completely different person than he was when we were growing up together. Most of these changes I can attribute to his girlfriend, who I became very close with. I love this girl. She and my brother had been talking about getting married, and I was excited to finally have a normal relationship with my brother and now a sister too! She was also planning on moving in with my brother this last week.

    She found some horrible things on his computer, including pictures of him having sex with other girls which were dated, so she knew that they were taken when they were together. She also found conversations with girls that he had saved about how great in bed he was, and hundreds of pictures of girls, some of which had been saved from facebook, some which had been sent to him because they were naked/in underwear. He even signed up for an online dating site, requesting as much casual sex as possible. So basically, he's been cheating on her throughout their entire relationship. It's pretty sickening. Our entire family is thoroughly distraught, and disgusted with my brother. His poor ex now has nowhere to live, and no job since she was waiting for him to find a job somewhere in CA and she would get one there too. Now she's flying back to Indiana to live with her parents, heart broken and completely mindfucked.

    She emailed me asking me to go on his computer and delete the folder of HER pictures, which was buried among the other folders of girls. My brother posts on forums online, and she's concerned that he'll post these pictures or show them to other people. I completely understand this, but it puts me in a tight spot. I totally side with her, and I understand why she would want to have these pictures deleted, because if I were in her shoes I would too. I think any woman would after finding out their soon to be fiance was a completely different person than they had thought. On the other hand, I don't want to invade my brother's privacy regardless of my impression of him right now. I've been working so hard to improve our relationship, and this could possibly jeopardize it if he found out I did this.

    I don't know what to do! HALP! :hs:

    PS- sorry for the novel.
     
  2. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

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    help her out, fwd pics to me.
     
  3. boxen

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    i can get to my brother's computer no problem. it would take less than 3 minutes. i don't want to lie to her, pictures like that could fuck up her future in terms of what she wants to do in life. plus my brother can be a pretty vengeful person.
     
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    wait what?
     
  5. Dahlia

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    I would delete them. Your brother is an asshole. I've been in the position she has been in and it's horrible. It's so demeaning to know that you are treated like that by someone who you love and trust.

    I say fuck your brother. I would do the same thing to my brother if he did that. Why should you let him know it's okay to do that to girls, and to potentially harm a girl that you care about.

    And to the subject of them never getting found... How many times are peoples careers RUINED because of shit that ended up online.
     
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    exactly. this is what i've been leaning towards. it's just so hard for me to believe that i can be related to someone who is capable of hurting someone so much.
     
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    I'm not even going to lie I would delete them and cut off contact with your brother. It sounds like you like your brother's now ex-gf more than you actually like him and he sounds like an asshole. Even if you live with your brother you can still end the relationship. So, you have to decide if you want to be involved in this mess or not.
     
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    You probably wont ever have to see this girl again, so I wouldn't get on your brothers bad side by snooping on his computer and deleting the pics.

    Attention women: If you don't want naked pics of yours to end up on the internet, do not let your boyfriends/husbands take them and keep them on their computers. If you ever break up they will end up on the internet.
     
  9. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    THIS.

    He really is an asshole and you should delete them, how would you feel if you were her? Treat other people the way you want to be treated.
     
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    A lot of guys don't give a fuck. And most men don't feel compassion and empathy like women do. And a lot of women are naive about men.
     
  11. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Not all guys are like that. You have to be a piece of garbage to do that.
     
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    i would stay out of it. you are messing in other peoples business if you do this. would you want your brother getting involved if the situation was flipped?
     
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    ditto
     
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    It really fucked me for awhile after I found out. Even today I still think guys I am seeing do that because it seems to be such a common thing that men do. I never found out if he had sex with them, but there were plenty of nudes girls were sending him, and he was on many dating sites to find girls. He thought nothing was wrong because it wasn't in person(that i know of). Still to this day I feel like anyone I am seeing could be having convos with girls online and I often get jealous of them speaking with other girls because I have NO clue if they are just friends or what.
     
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    your brother does sound like a huge pimp though :rofl:



    sounds like he is rolling around in pussy
     
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    the ironic thing is that my brother HAS gotten involved in a situation similar to this. it was actually really disgusting. i was away from my computer and when i came back to it, his email was the last one to log into facebook. i checked out my recent documents, and he had looked at not ONE, but every single one of MY scandalous pictures which had been taken because i was in a LDR at the time. i'm his SISTER for godssake.

    WHAT THE FUCK :ugh:
     
  17. boxen

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    but where do i get dll files?
     
  18. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    :ugh2: and you want to have a good relationship with him???!!! fucking ignore him to shit.
     
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    no question that your brother can be a real dick, but i still wouldnt get involved.
     
  20. boxen

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    :bowdown: this is fantastic. thank you!
     
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    I am SO glad I don't have you as a friend. :ugh:
     
  22. Abomb

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    at least send the pics to vag before you delete them....

    now im curious to know the quality of ass your brother pulls
     
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    uh no, shes right, its not her fucking place to get involved. I wouldnt want my family getting involved in my personal affairs unless requested.
     
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    i wouldnt want to be friends with someone who expects me to snoop into my brothers stuff. not to mention, its her brothers ex girlfriend, not a friend of hers. its not her business, this is between her brother and his ex.
     
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    :rofl:
     

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